Obituaries cannot tell the stories of the man’s life, and all his accomplishments, nor are they meant to. Just a brief notice saying he has died, where the service will be held, and who has been left behind to mourn. Those that are left behind to mourn the loss of a father, husband, brother, uncle, grandfather, son, are left with unspeakable pain and heartache. They must fight the struggle to move on with their lives without the man they love.
Alfred was afflicted with Bi-Polar disease, a chemical imbalance that causes great emotional and mental struggles for those afflicted, as well as their families and loved ones. Until there is a cure found for the millions of people suffering with this disease, medications are prescribed to help create a balance within those afflicted in order to function in their daily lives as much as possible.
Alfred’s wife, Vilma, is my best friend. Actually, she’s much more than a best friend. She used to be my sister in-law, from her first marriage to my brother. I’ve known Vilma since I was fourteen years old, and she quickly became the sister I never had. When she and my brother divorced, I did not divorce my sister. She is my sister regardless of who she is married to. My ex-husband and my son are both Bi-Polar. I understand all too well the devastating effects this disease has on all concerned.
It is an extremely difficult life to live being in a relationship with someone with this disorder, regardless of whether it’s as a spouse, mother, father, brother, sister, etc. I hope there will be a cure soon, not just for the benefit of those I personally care about and love, but for all those suffering with this disorder. In the meantime, all I can do is be there to comfort my sister and my niece, who are suffering the loss of the man they loved despite his illness.
Alfred, rest in peace. You are now healthy in the complete sense, and in God’s loving hands and at peace in mind, body and spirit.
Published in the Star-Telegram on 6/1/2007:
Alfred G. Brown Jr. passed away unexpectedly Sunday, May 27, 2007.
Memorial service: 2 p.m. Friday at Eastgate Funeral Home, 1910 Eastgate Drive, Garland.
He was born to Alfred and El Jannetta in July 1958. He was educated in the Utica school system. He obtained his bachelor’s degree in engineering science from Almeda University. He served in the U.S. Air Force.
Alfred was a loving husband, father, son, grandfather and friend. Family was his most important piece of life. He was a devoted and passionate human being. He took much pride in his work as an engineer.
He was predeceased by his mother, El Jannetta, and his sister, JoAnne Baruti.
Survivors: He leaves to mourn his wife, Vilma I. Brown; his children, Carmen Tracey (Barry) and Brian Brown; his grandchild, Christopher Brown; his stepchildren, Jessica Thoman and Charice Thoman; his step-grandchildren, Jesse Armstrong and Parker Thoman; his parents, Alfred and Charlene Brown Sr.; his brothers, Neil and John Brown (Cheri); and sisters, Lorelei Pelzer (Joseph), Amelia Brown, Gwendolyn Duhart (Roy), Alexandria Gore (John), Constance Adams, Jacquline Thorpe and Michelle Simpson.