I guess it just goes to show that sometimes as a parent you can do everything possible to help ensure your kid is excelling in all areas of life, especially in school, and no matter what you do or how closely you watch their activities, they can often find themselves in trouble anyway. Argh!
I just recently learned from my daughter’s school that if she is to graduate from High School on time with her classmates in May, that I must pay over $600.00 for her to attend night school to make up grades in three classes that she’s FAILING in. To say that I was not at all pleased with this news is an understatement.
Regardless of the fact that I inquire almost daily as to whether she has homework to do, what exactly she is needing to do for homework or school projects, when each is due to be turned in etc, my 18 year-old daughter is failing in three classes. Her response to my questions as to why and how this could have happened? “I guess I just got lazy, and didn’t do my homework”. Argh!
It took me about an hour to calm my blood pressure enough to discuss the situation with my husband in order to decide what steps we would and would NOT take in this rather expensive proposition. Mind you, my daughter is 18 years old, mature enough to understand and appreciate that there are some things I just don’t tolerate. Telling me that things are going very well in school, when they are obviously NOT going so well, is the quickest way to send me over the edge. Lying is not an option in our home.
Now what are we going to do about this situation?
We are going to use Tough Love and allow her to face the consequences of her own poor choices. Not only are we NOT going to pay the $600.00+ for her to attend night school to make up for these three classes, so she can graduate with her classmates (people she doesn’t even like) on time, but she will have to attend Summer School in order to graduate.
Not only that, but she will have to pay the $600.00 tuition fee necessary to attend summer school, as we are not going to
enable do it for her. Trying to dig up a part-time job that will allow her to earn the money she’ll need in time to attend summer school will be a valuable lesson. I’m also going to be speaking with the school to try and find out why I didn’t receive any notification of this pending catastrophe. Hmm, I bet I already know the answer to that one. Argh!