Mother’s Day is on Sunday, May 11, 2008 in case you hadn’t yet noticed it on the calendar. If you were to ask most moms what they would want for Mother’s Day, you just might be surprised to discover that what she wants most of all is Momtime. Of course the Sunday Brunch, homemade cards from the kids, gift cards, flowers, breakfast in bed, or a trip away with the husband are all very nice ideas for mom, but most mother’s raising kids just want time to themselves, alone.
After spending 364 days each year caring and tending to the needs of the children, the husband, the house, the job, and everything else that goes with being a mom, it makes perfect sense that she would want to celebrate HER day doing whatever she wants without distraction or interruptions.
Are you a mom? What do you really want for Mother’s Day this year? Take a look at just some of the things moms commonly ask for and want, and see if any of these describe you:
“Let me sleep in! I want nothing other than to wake up and realize I don’t have to get up and take care of the kids or fix breakfast for anyone. I want to stay in bed as long as I want, take a long leisurely bath without interruption, read a book or watch tv.”
“My ideal Mother’s Day would be to just sit around the house, do whatever I want and whenever I want, while my husband takes our kids out for the entire day, followed by a nice dinner at a restaurant of my choosing with the family”.
“I want my kids to spend the entire day not fighting and arguing with each other, picking up after themselves, not talking back and otherwise driving me nuts!”
“I want my husband and kids to remember that it’s called Mother’s DAY, not an hour or two, but an entire DAY to show how much I’m appreciated and valued as a mother. I want to be Pampered with a full-body massage and otherwise treated like a Queen throughout the whole day.”
Personally speaking, my kids are all grown up now and my favorite Mother’s Day gift was when my kids treated me to a full-body massage at a local spa, something I had never experienced before. That is what I want this year too, along with being taken out for dinner at my favorite restaurant, Fago de Chao.
Mother’s Day Gift Ideas:
Gifts from the heart. Instead of scrounging around at the last minute, put some thought into what the mom in your life would want and start planning or shopping now. Write her a love letter, letting her know how happy and blessed you feel that she is in your life. Giving a heartfelt gift might include having a special message engraved (Things Remembered is one of my favorite stores), perhaps a locket or picture frame with a family photo inserted.
A Day of Peace. If you are a tween or teen, let Mother’s Day be peaceful and calm, without the bickering and sibling rivalry so common in families. Do some work around the house without being asked like washing the dishes, or even mow the lawn. But don’t expect to get paid for doing these jobs because they are a gift to mom for all she does for you.
Forget the cut flowers that are just going to die in a couple of days. Consider buying mom a beautiful and personalized gift basket, or a plant that she can enjoy for many mothers days to come, either an inside plant or those mom can plant outside in her garden to spruce up the yard.
Keep it simple and inexpensive by making your own coupon book that mom can use all year long, such as doing extra chores around the house, doing the laundry, cleaning the house, etc. Use your imagination to come up with other coupon ideas for mom and she’ll be very pleased. Make breakfast or lunch for your mothers special day, or bake mom a cake or her favorite cookies as a thoughtful gift.
Send her a card, buy her a box of her favorite chocolates, give her a gift card to her favorite store. Some mothers enjoy receiving the gift of facials, manicures, makeovers and other spa treatments, but she likely already has enough bubble bath left over from Christmas and doesn’t want more.
Make it meaningful and thoughtful as opposed to thinking of Mother’s Day as one of those “we have to do something because we’re expected to do something” sort of days. Think about what your mother likes and dislikes, rather than waiting for her to drop hints in your direction or even worse, expecting mom to go on a Mother’s Day Campaign to find her own gifts and tell you where to go buy them.
R.E.S.P.E.C.T and appreciation go a long way. Moms want and need to be shown how much they are loved and appreciated by her children and husband, so shower her with affection and hugs and say, “Thank you Mom for everything you do for us”. Let her off the hook for the day by allowing her to relax, without giving mom an attitude or back-talk. Remember, Mother’s Day is for her to enjoy the special day however she wants or chooses to.
Moms, what do you really want for Mother’s Day this year? Dads or kids, what will you be doing to show the mom in your life how much she means to you?