It has come to my attention that there is a sexual predator masquerading as a parent blogger in our midst, and is even an active participant on Entrecard in the Family/Parenting category. I’m furious! To think that I had unwittingly given this pervert advertising opportunities on my Entrecard widget in the past has me feeling enraged and sick to my stomach. It won’t happen ever again!
Having been a victim of sexual abuse myself as a child, and currently writing a series of articles on the subject, I am furious that this sorry sack of flesh would have the nerve to seek advertising on my blog and many others.
I have a message for you, Mr. Pervert! Stop requesting advert space on my blog, you will be denied! I know who you are and I know what blogs you own, so go crawl back into your snake hole and stay put! You are not welcome here! Having said that, it is important to note that not all male family bloggers are sex offenders, so I will continue to use Entrecard and enjoy discovering quality blogs and share advert space on my widget.
For legal reasons, and to respect the rights to privacy for the victim, please do not ask me who it is. I cannot tell you, although I would LOVE to, so you could deny his advert requests too! I can only hope that the officials of Entrecard have been made aware, and it is my sincere hope that this maniac will be banned very soon, and have his cough, choke, spit…family blogs deleted from the Blogosphere.
The subject of sexually abused children is one that I take very seriously, and I’m working hard to bring you more informative articles to help you parents protect your children. Since I began the sexual abuse series, I have been inundated with emails from victims telling me their personal stories, especially since I know all too well what they went through. If you have been a victim of sexual abuse and want to talk to me, please use the Contact link at the top of my blog, and I will reply promptly.
I have heard from several mothers whose child was sexually abused while in school, daycare, church, by a relative or close family friend, and have asked me to write about the problems associated with “mother blame”. What is the first thing that crosses your mind when you hear about a child being sexually abused? Like many people, the question “Where was the mother?” is often the first thing that crosses people’s minds. Mothers are being vilified and ridiculed in society as being neglectful parents of these children, and it’s got to stop.
For the sake of child safety, it is imperative that parents learn the identifying characteristics of a pedophile, because these perverts are constantly using a variety of “grooming methods” to get close to children.
Further Reading:
Signs and Symptoms of Child Sexual Abuse
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29 responses so far ↓
1 Hungry Mother (45 comments.) // Apr 19, 2008 at 7:26 am
I guess it’s a natural haunt for sexual predators, but I wouldn’t have guessed that family blogging would contain such monsters.
2 Lin (904 comments.) // Apr 19, 2008 at 7:33 am
HM, the internet is a well-known playground for sexual predators, but the audacity that they would blog about family and relationship topics is appalling beyond my imagination.
3 Susan // Apr 19, 2008 at 8:15 am
If there is a law being broken, I would hope that you will contact the proper authorities. Soliciting illegal activity online certainly is a crime and blogging does solicit contact (as I am contacting you now). If this person has a record (as I assume you know he does) then someone should be notified.
This is a good reminder that we often give far too much information about ourselves and our families even in a “safe” online environment. I know I’m guilty of that. Obviously there is no “safe” environment, online or otherwise.
4 Lin (904 comments.) // Apr 19, 2008 at 8:36 am
Hi Susan, those closest to the situation have already contacted the authorities and are working with the officials to see to it something is done about this guy.
5 book_it (1 comments.) // Apr 19, 2008 at 9:52 am
If true, I hope Entrecard acts swiftly and bans the blog quickly. I guess I would have never thought a predator would be blogging here. (I would love to know who this is so I could reject adverts from them on all of my accounts here as well, but I understand your reluctance to not divulge this.)
6 Jen (1 comments.) // Apr 19, 2008 at 10:05 am
That’s scarey!! I hope they can do something to him. Thanks for the heads up. I just hope he doesn’t come to mine and I advertise for him. PUKE!
7 Debbie Lane (1 comments.) // Apr 19, 2008 at 10:08 am
Let’s hope that the authorities are able to get him away from any child!
8 Angelika (1 comments.) // Apr 19, 2008 at 11:43 am
OMG! That is disgusting. I hope his blogs are removed ASAP!
9 Chris (10 comments.) // Apr 19, 2008 at 12:20 pm
How did you find out? Maybe I can do the same thing. My children are my biggest blog fans, I certainly don’t want this person commenting on my blog.
10 Lin (904 comments.) // Apr 19, 2008 at 12:37 pm
The victim is now an adult, but was abused as a young girl. This Perp served jail time for his crime, so this is not a brand new case. This guy was convicted and sentenced to jail for four measily years, and is now a parenting blogger. It just disgusts me.
11 Mr V (3 comments.) // Apr 19, 2008 at 5:03 pm
Not good. I followed this post through your links and followed the trail a fair way, reading up on this particular incident. I suppose we shouldn’t be surprised things like this are used in this manner, just betrayed.
Made for spooky reading, being in the job I am.
Cheers.
12 Megan from Imaginif (15 comments.) // Apr 19, 2008 at 5:15 pm
Hi Lin and others. Thanks so much for raising awareness with your readers too. Alleged sex predator was reported to police as soon as I became aware of who he was and what he was doing. He is apparently being monitored.
As Susan points out, online exploitation of children is a crime. There is a Virtual Global Taskforce (made up of police forces from around the world) that tracks the movements of reported people: http://www.virtualglobaltaskforce.com/
He is apparently a registered sex offender so I fail to understand why he has never been counselled out of family blogging by his probation visitor.
Stay vigilant everyone but also know that not all male family bloggers are offenders. There are some great Dad blogs around.
If sex offender bloggers card has been on your site, it is not your fault and no reflection on any of you. Predators are sneaky and clever at leaving out relevant information about themselves.
13 Lin (904 comments.) // Apr 19, 2008 at 5:27 pm
Megan, thank you for that link to the virtual global task force site. You’re also right that there are some fabulous dad blogs around, and I really do enjoy them.
I understand that having had this guy’s card on my site doesn’t reflect poorly on me personally, it really ticked me off that he would have the audacity to request advert space on my blog, given who and what he is.
14 Lin (904 comments.) // Apr 19, 2008 at 5:29 pm
Mr V, I’m glad you took the time to follow the links to better inform yourself on this problem. This guy has a lot of nerve to come around here to my blog.
15 Lin (904 comments.) // Apr 19, 2008 at 6:02 pm
Megan, I forgot to mention that sex offenders aren’t exactly inclined to follow the rules put down by probation officers or other authorities. If they can find a way around the law, or just not get caught, they’ll try just about anything.
I wonder if there’s a way to report him to his blog servers, especially since his offense is of public record now, and get his sites taken down. ??
16 Megan from Imaginif (15 comments.) // Apr 19, 2008 at 11:34 pm
Yeah, I’ve been looking at that Lin. Certainly in Aust, as content providers, we all have a responsibility to report any exploitation of children. This is taken from the Australian Federal Police site:
Start quote: Reporting by Internet Service Providers / Internet Content Hosts
The AFP works in partnership with Internet Service Providers (ISP) and Internet Content Hosts (ICH) in the battle against child pornography.
If you are an ISP or ICH and have become aware of child pornography or child abuse material on your server(s), then you are required to report this to the AFP.
You may report matters by using our ISP/ICH online form.
The Attorney General’s website provides information on the Legislative responsibilities of ISPs and ICHs. End quote
I am not sure if his movement fits the legislation but I reported anyway. I would rather be safe than sorry.
The sneakiness and underhanded behaviour commonly associated with sex predators bothers me greatly - I would never have the balls to set myself up as a family blogger if I had been convicted of offences against children. Is that a breach of the legislation though???
You and I have publicly drawn our line in the sand. I also publicly support the vast majority of male bloggers who do the right thing. Thanks guys, we are on your side.
17 Lin (904 comments.) // Apr 19, 2008 at 11:39 pm
Excellent information Megan! Thank you for providing this for all of us. I’m very glad that you’ve reported this to those authorities, and hopefully it will fall within the legislation and something will be done about it promptly.
There are some great male/dad bloggers around, and I really enjoy their posts and link to them on occasion, as they are truly remarkable.
18 Mr V (3 comments.) // Apr 20, 2008 at 2:46 am
I wasn’t following the reading to better inform myself of the problem - I’m well aware of the problem. I was more following it deeper specifically for this particular instance.
Reading that list of ‘warning signs’ though… you realise how many of those are innocently relevant to just about every male teacher as well?
19 Lin (904 comments.) // Apr 20, 2008 at 9:37 am
Hi Mr. V, informing yourself of this particular instance is what I meant in my initial response, not the overall problem of child molesters. Yes, I realize that the warning signs are also relevant to male teachers, coaches etc. That’s one reason why identifying these people is so difficult, because many of the “signs” are so generalized (even with the US Dept of Justice) that they could apply to many innocent people as well.
20 guardian angel (9 comments.) // Apr 20, 2008 at 12:02 pm
Truly, there is no safe place for young girl even at home.
This is what I have been telling my daughter, be conscious and protect yourself always, even from me.
By the way, as an advocate to protect our children from the devils on line and off-line, you may want to visit my not so old post.
I actually required my daughter to read and understand it.
Thank Lin for informing us.
21 Lin (904 comments.) // Apr 20, 2008 at 1:01 pm
GA, both boys and girls are at risk of being sexually abused. I did read and comment on your article on the subject, and found some things I cannot advocate or recommend parents do. Thank you for your comment and thoughts on this extremely important topic.
22 Kim (16 comments.) // Apr 22, 2008 at 9:42 am
This has left such a sick feeling in my stomach. THanks for the heads up..
23 Megan from Imaginif (15 comments.) // Apr 25, 2008 at 1:59 am
Lin I’ve just posted on the protocol for reporting any suspicious online activity toward children. Also, alleged predator again applied to advertise on my site. Will be intersting to see if he tries you again as well.
24 Mr V (3 comments.) // Apr 26, 2008 at 5:08 am
Persistent little bugger, eh?
25 Carol // May 28, 2008 at 11:53 am
I know I am late coming into this blog but you need to know that there are very effective ways of dealing with online sexual predators. All local and national law enforcement units are actively seeking these predators and will take action. All you have to do is go onto the FBI website and give them the information. They will take care of it. If you know, or suspect, that someone is in imminent danger call law enforcement right away - do not wait.
26 Lin (904 comments.) // May 28, 2008 at 12:27 pm
Hi Carol, thank you for that info. Megan (commenter above) and the victim of this guy are handling the situation personally and are doing everything possible legally and ethically. Welcome to the site Carol!
27 Mike (1 comments.) // Jul 30, 2008 at 10:26 am
I try not to be judgmental but was wondering how do you know that the guy is a sexual predator. Maybe I missed something along the way
28 Lin (904 comments.) // Jul 30, 2008 at 10:39 am
Hi Mike, those that are closest to the situation (legally and personally) are dealing with this ‘family blogger’ perp and working to get his blogs deleted or removed. I haven’t heard about or read any updates on whether that goal has been accomplished yet, but I’ll be checking into that.
29 Lela // Sep 16, 2008 at 2:54 pm
Predators are everywhere..highly manipulative and great actors..I would know, I turned one in who was once a family friend.
Be safe, this seems like a great site.
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