I recently had the opportunity to interview Allison Bottke about her book, Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children, and I have one extra book that I’m going to give away! It is my hope that this book will really help an enabling parent, one that is struggling with the stress of getting an adult child to take care of him or herself financially, and in any other way.
If you haven’t yet had the chance to read my interview with Allison, I recommend you do so, as she is a phenomenal author and she gave a great interview.
This book giveaway is for Allison Bottke’s book, Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children: Six Steps to Hope and Healing for Struggling Parents. The winner will be chosen by random draw on Wednesday, May 14th and will be notified by email, along with the request for full name and U.S. only address of where to send the book.
If you are interested in entering the drawing for Allison’s book, please let me know by leaving a comment below, with the understanding that I will not spam you or use your information for anything other than this book giveaway.
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1 Lori Harrison (1 comments.) // May 9, 2008 at 8:26 am
I’m interested in entering the drawing for this book! I feel I can use help in this area, most definitely.
2 Lin (640 comments.) // May 9, 2008 at 8:35 am
Hi Lori, you are now entered into the drawing. Good luck!
3 April (4 comments.) // May 9, 2008 at 9:05 am
I am definitely interested!
4 Lin (640 comments.) // May 9, 2008 at 9:28 am
April, you’ve been entered into the drawing as well.
5 Kilroy_60 (4 comments.) // May 9, 2008 at 4:12 pm
I think I may take a shot at making TheSpecialOne a mother this weekend. Ho Ho
I’m Stumbling around the blogosphere a bit and made sure to stop by for a big THUMBS UP.
Hope everything has smoothed out for you and yours.
Ciao
6 Lin (640 comments.) // May 9, 2008 at 5:22 pm
Hi Kilroy! You’re too funny. Good luck with the um…plans for the weekend.
7 Debbie // May 9, 2008 at 6:15 pm
I would love to read this book.
Mothers day will be out with my whole family. This will be the first in a while that my son will be going. Your advice has helped improve our relationship as well.
8 Lin (640 comments.) // May 9, 2008 at 6:56 pm
Debbie, I removed your address from the comment for your privacy. If you win the random draw, I will email you and ask for your address then. I don’t believe it’s a good idea to have your address displayed publicly this way, so I have edited your comment to remove it. Good luck in the draw!
9 Cindi // May 10, 2008 at 12:03 am
Hello, There couldn’t be better timing for having this book in my life! My oldest son has returned home from out of state college and will be living at home again now. He is attending a college very close to where we live. As I type this, I am waiting for him to return home from his girlfriend’s
parents! Our curfew is 1:00 am at the latest and he isn’t home. Please enter me in your drawing. I do appreciate it. Thanks,Cindi
10 Lin (640 comments.) // May 10, 2008 at 6:30 am
Hi Cindi, you have been entered into the drawing. I hope your son made it home alright…albeit late.
11 Janine // May 10, 2008 at 12:50 pm
Hi, I have a 29 yr old son whose behavior makes me second-guess all my parenting efforts - both from long ago and more recently. I could sure use this book! Thanks for entering me into the drawing.
12 Marilyn // May 10, 2008 at 2:36 pm
I am going crazy, I cannot let go of my adult children. I need help to let them grow on their own. They don’t really ask, I just give. HELP. Thanks.
13 Lin (640 comments.) // May 10, 2008 at 3:43 pm
Hi Janine, thank you for entering the draw for this very cool book. Good luck in the draw!
14 Lin (640 comments.) // May 10, 2008 at 3:49 pm
Hi Marilyn, you’ve also been entered into the drawing for this book. The kids don’t even ask, but you just keep giving? Yikes my dear woman! Be sure to read the numerous articles I’ve written on the subject of “helping vs. enabling” on this blog. I wish I had more to give away than just this one extra copy. Good luck in the drawing!
15 Link Building Bible (2 comments.) // May 11, 2008 at 9:05 am
I would like to be entered into the contest as well. Thank you for offering this!
16 Lin (640 comments.) // May 11, 2008 at 10:15 am
Hi L.B.B, it’s nice to meet you. You’re entered into the drawing. Good luck!
17 Beth Z // May 12, 2008 at 6:49 am
I happened upon your blog today & will be bookmarking it! I have a 23 year old son that I love dearly but he’s testing my patience & my boundries. I struggle with enabling and have managed to avoid bailing him out of several messes & it is the hardest thing I’ve ever done - to say “No”. Give me the strength to continue to love unconditionally but to set the boundries necessary for him to become the strong man I know that he can be!
18 Lin (640 comments.) // May 12, 2008 at 6:52 am
Hi Beth! Welcome to Telling It Like It Is. You are entered into the drawing for the book. Do take some time reading my articles about “helping and enabling” to get you started on learning how to stop enabling adult children. I understand the struggle to get children to be responsible for themselves, and changing the enabling behaviors really is doable. Good luck in the drawing!
19 Janine // May 12, 2008 at 10:21 am
Beth - I could have written your email, altho my son is a few years older - I could have written it when he was 23, and I could still have written it today! I, like you, know he has the capability to be a strong man - there are glimmers of that strong man in this young man - but he too often looks for the “easy way”, which ends up making him feel worse rather than better about himself, contributing to an ongoing cycle that he doesn’t seem to be learning very quickly from!
I learned to say no several years ago, but it has not been easy, and frankly, it hasn’t had the effect - yet - that I had hoped it would - b/c when I say no, someone/something else seems to always come along to get him off the hook. Which makes things better in the short term for him, but not in the long term. He is finally at an age where he verbalizes what he needs to do, which I guess is a start, but talk is cheap - I’m waiting for some concrete steps!
I’m a single mom, and I do think that that has contributed to this situation - no pragmatic dad in the picture to deal w/ him in an unemotional way - even when I have said No, it’s always very emotional w/ me - I sense he would benefit from less emotion, but it’s hard b/c the act of saying no is an emotional one for me - these aren’t simple “no’s” like when he was young, these are big “no’s” w/ consequences - so I can say no, and stick w/ it, but I don’t do it easily -
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21 Lin (640 comments.) // May 14, 2008 at 8:50 pm
I want to thank all of you who entered this random drawing for this book. I wish I had a copy for each of you but I don’t.
All the names were put into a large fish bowl and my daughter drew the name…..drum roll please…..
Beth Z to be the winner of the book giveaway! Congratulations Beth! You will be receiving my email requesting your full name and address so I can send you this wonderful book.
Within the original post on the subject of Setting Boundaries is a link for the rest of you to purchase the book if you’d like to. It’s a fabulous book with great information and tips of how to stop enabling, and I highly recommend reading this book. Thanks to all of you for participating.
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