Purposeful Parenting Month – Parenting With a Purpose

Purposeful Parenting MonthJuly is National Purposeful Parenting Month, which strives to build strong, positive, functional families with children of any age, recognizing the importance of meaningful relationships between parents and children. Being a purposeful parent takes a lot of hard work and commitment in order to nurture love and respect in the family, as well as the need to shift the family’s focus and energy from reaction to action.

“Parents need to fill a child’s bucket of self-esteem so high that the rest of the world can’t poke enough holes to drain it dry” – Alvin Price

Being part of a family is probably the most important role a person can have during their lifetime and most of us, if not all of us, do it with little or no training. There is no such thing as The Perfect Parenting Manual, unfortunately. With changing rules and roles, including the increased prevalence of single-parent homes, it’s not always clear whether one’s own family is functioning in a healthy and happy way or not. Being a parent isn’t an easy job but, with lots of effort and hard work, it can be very rewarding.

Children can and need to be taught to make good choices in their lives, to feel good about themselves from an early age, as well as consistent guidance in directing them from dependence to independence. Purposeful parenting requires parents to become more deeply involved in their children’s lives, giving their children strong roots and wings to fly, and setting positive boundaries in which to channel their behavior and decisions.

The blueprint for Purposeful Parenting incorporates a number of building blocks included in Parenting Without Pressure, that restore and nurture love and respect in the family, with parenting strategies that can easily be implemented and continued throughout the so-called “turbulent teen years” and beyond.

8 Steps to Purposeful Parenting:

  • Structure & Order
  • Responsibility & Accountability
  • Firmness & Fairness
  • Limits & Boundaries
  • Consistency
  • Problem-Solving Skills
  • Understanding
  • Unconditional Love

These eight components of purposeful parenting must be coupled with positive role-modeling, as this will help to create a safe and secure home environment where children can grow, develop, thrive and flourish well into adulthood.

To celebrate Purposeful Parenting Month, parents can do a variety of simple and easy things to create a more positive and loving home life. Remember, the best times are when you make time, making every opportunity possible to spend time with your children, savoring each moment as a treasure! Before you know it, they’ll be all grown up and moving on with their own lives.

Don’t make the all-too-common parenting mistake of thinking that earning a living and providing a home for your children is more important than spending time with your children. You can’t bring back those lost years, so don’t skimp.

  1. Tell your children you love them, and do it often.
  2. Find at least one thing your child has done right each day.
  3. Celebrate the uniqueness of all family members.
  4. Create a safe environment for the entire family.
  5. Grab every opportunity to spend unstructured time.
  6. Plan fun family activities. Turn off the T.V.! Get organized!
  7. Teach values. Learn the value of delegating responsibilities.
  8. Establish family traditions.


“Your children will become what you are; so be what you want them to be”
– David Bly

With the right approach and positive attitude, parenting can be fun for everyone involved. The definition of Discipline is “to teach”, which is a positive approach to teaching children appropriate behavior, as opposed to the definition of Punishment being to “chastise or correct” misbehavior after the wrongful deed has already been done. Remember, the better you are with discipline, the less you will have to punish.

Fun Family Things To Do With Kids and Family:

Summer Picnics Go to the Beach Backyard BBQ Go to Sports Events
Go Bowling Cook/Bake Kid Style Go Fishing Throw a Party
Roller blade Bike Riding Do Puzzles Miniature Golf
Go to the Zoo Go to a Museum Go to a Concert
Play Board Games
Go Camping Plan a Vacation Make Ice Cream! Build a Family Tree
Play Baseball Go Ice-Skating Horseback riding Do Kid Crafts!
Make Kid Puppets Plan a Block Party Go to the Park Hiking
Boating Children’s Theater
County Fair Local Festival
Nature Centers Amusement Parks
Visit the Library Play Frisbee
Gardening Fun Obstacle Course Berry Picking Have Karaoke Night!

 

Emphasizing communication, unconditional love, and a structured environment, the Parenting Without Pressure approach will involve your whole family in the parenting process. You’ll learn how to establish fair rules with workable consequences and motivating incentives. You will be freed from the pressure of making “on the spot” disciplinary decisions. You’ll find out how to give up the struggle but keep your authority. And you’ll learn how discussions about rules and consequences prepare your children for the real world ahead.

Related Posts:

Summer Activities For Kids: Fun Summer Things For Kids To Do
Building Self-Confidence in Children With Self-Esteem Activities
A Child’s Ten Commandments For Parents
Identifying Early Warning Signs of Enabling Behaviors
Zero Tolerance for Disrespectful, Cussing Kids
Picky Eaters – Getting Kids to Eat Healthy


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  1. hi Lin, It seems like there is a “Month” for everything these days… that said, I can’t think of a better cause than good parenting.
    Being a good parent doesn’t just happen, and I don’t think everyone is one. Everyone probably could be, but it takes hard work.
    I agree with all of your advice, and you’ve got some great ideas for activities.
    I think some of the best parenting advice I ever heard was that one “is raising a future adult, not a child”. It takes some thinking to understand, but the idea is that you want to create a person who will be a responsible adult down the road, and contribute to society. I could go on but I don’t know how long comments are supposed to be.
    BTW, I was formerly “untwisting”, but now go by “display booths”. Of course, it’s probably easier to just call me Steve (or Steve, the guy that is all about display booths)

  2. Lin says:

    Hi Steve, you’re so right. Several of the articles that I’ve written on this site deal with the issues of “helping vs. enabling” because so many parents don’t understand the difference between helping their children become independent adults (from the time they are very young) versus “enabling” their children (especially adult children) and wonder why their grown children continue to ask for money, with the attitude that parents “owe” things and financial help to now-grown children.

    From the kind of comments those articles receive, along with numerous questions regarding their particular situation that I make suggestions on, it is very clear that many parents just don’t understand that they have an immense responsibility to begin raising a future adult from the time they’re born.

    The subject of Entitlement makes me crazy, to say the least. As does the subject of babies having babies. Tweens and teens have NO idea what they’re getting themselves into when they get pregnant, and far too often the brunt of the responsibility of taking care of these new babies falls on the shoulders of the now-grandparents. Sigh….

  3. hi Lin, As usual, you phrase it much more elegantly than I could – I’d just say something like “don’t spoil your kid” and “make them earn whatever it is they want so that they value it”. But you’re absolutely correct, it’s about the difference between helping vs. enabling… and creating independent adults or grown-up children.
    Good parenting isn’t very easy, and it often requires self-control on the part of the parent. It’s so easy to want to just give stuff to your kids, but it’s always better if you find a way that they can “earn” whatever it is – in the end, they’ll appreciate it a lot more.
    As to babies having babies… well, don’t get me started!
    ~ Steve (aka Mr. Display Booths)

  4. Lin, Fabulous post! I went and heard an Assoc Prof talk on adolesence last week and he aid a key to a happy family is to keep a 5:1 positive comment ratio in the household. Great succinct tips you have listed.

  5. Michael says:

    Great Post…

    It is true a strong family unit is imperative to a child’s success… It doesn’t necessarily mean a mother and a father because I was raised by my Grandmother… but you definitely need a strong backbone of support to come home to….

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