July is National Purposeful Parenting Month, which strives to build strong, positive, functional families with children of any age, recognizing the importance of meaningful relationships between parents and children. Being a purposeful parent takes a lot of hard work and commitment in order to nurture love and respect in the family, as well as the need to shift the family’s focus and energy from reaction to action.
“Parents need to fill a child’s bucket of self-esteem so high that the rest of the world can’t poke enough holes to drain it dry” – Alvin Price
Being part of a family is probably the most important role a person can have during their lifetime and most of us, if not all of us, do it with little or no training. There is no such thing as The Perfect Parenting Manual, unfortunately. With changing rules and roles, including the increased prevalence of single-parent homes, it’s not always clear whether one’s own family is functioning in a healthy and happy way or not. Being a parent isn’t an easy job but, with lots of effort and hard work, it can be very rewarding.
Children can and need to be taught to make good choices in their lives, to feel good about themselves from an early age, as well as consistent guidance in directing them from dependence to independence. Purposeful parenting requires parents to become more deeply involved in their children’s lives, giving their children strong roots and wings to fly, and setting positive boundaries in which to channel their behavior and decisions.
The blueprint for Purposeful Parenting incorporates a number of building blocks included in Parenting Without Pressure, that restore and nurture love and respect in the family, with parenting strategies that can easily be implemented and continued throughout the so-called “turbulent teen years” and beyond.
8 Steps to Purposeful Parenting:
- Structure & Order
- Responsibility & Accountability
- Firmness & Fairness
- Limits & Boundaries
- Problem-Solving Skills
- Unconditional Love
These eight components of purposeful parenting must be coupled with positive role-modeling, as this will help to create a safe and secure home environment where children can grow, develop, thrive and flourish well into adulthood.
To celebrate Purposeful Parenting Month, parents can do a variety of simple and easy things to create a more positive and loving home life. Remember, the best times are when you make time, making every opportunity possible to spend time with your children, savoring each moment as a treasure! Before you know it, they’ll be all grown up and moving on with their own lives.
Don’t make the all-too-common parenting mistake of thinking that earning a living and providing a home for your children is more important than spending time with your children. You can’t bring back those lost years, so don’t skimp.
- Tell your children you love them, and do it often.
- Find at least one thing your child has done right each day.
- Celebrate the uniqueness of all family members.
- Create a safe environment for the entire family.
- Grab every opportunity to spend unstructured time.
- Plan fun family activities. Turn off the T.V.! Get organized!
- Teach values. Learn the value of delegating responsibilities.
- Establish family traditions.
“Your children will become what you are; so be what you want them to be” – David Bly
With the right approach and positive attitude, parenting can be fun for everyone involved. The definition of Discipline is “to teach”, which is a positive approach to teaching children appropriate behavior, as opposed to the definition of Punishment being to “chastise or correct” misbehavior after the wrongful deed has already been done. Remember, the better you are with discipline, the less you will have to punish.
Fun Family Things To Do With Kids and Family:
|Summer Picnics||Go to the Beach||Backyard BBQ||Go to Sports Events |
|Go Bowling||Cook/Bake Kid Style||Go Fishing||Throw a Party|
|Roller blade||Bike Riding||Do Puzzles||Miniature Golf|
|Go to the Zoo||Go to a Museum||Go to a Concert ||Play Board Games|
|Go Camping||Plan a Vacation||Make Ice Cream!||Build a Family Tree|
|Play Baseball||Go Ice-Skating||Horseback riding||Do Kid Crafts!|
|Make Kid Puppets||Plan a Block Party||Go to the Park||Hiking|
|Boating||Children’s Theater ||County Fair||Local Festival|
|Nature Centers||Amusement Parks ||Visit the Library||Play Frisbee|
|Gardening||Fun Obstacle Course||Berry Picking||Have Karaoke Night!|
Emphasizing communication, unconditional love, and a structured environment, the Parenting Without Pressure approach will involve your whole family in the parenting process. You’ll learn how to establish fair rules with workable consequences and motivating incentives. You will be freed from the pressure of making “on the spot” disciplinary decisions. You’ll find out how to give up the struggle but keep your authority. And you’ll learn how discussions about rules and consequences prepare your children for the real world ahead.
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