Blogging War of Words – Live and Let Live

I’ve always enjoyed writing, whether online or offline. I’ve been writing for several years now, but have only had this online, very public forum to share my views and opinions on a variety of subjects for a little over a year and a half now. The internet is an amazing place for sure, where anyone with a computer can find information relating to their interests or problems from the privacy of their own homes.

Subscribing to and commenting on other blogs that interest me is also something I’ve enjoyed immensely, as there has been a feeling of community amongst fellow bloggers. That being said, there is also a growing trend where some bloggers use their own blogs, as well as other public forums such as Twitter, to criticize and humiliate other bloggers for any number of excuses.

Anyone with any real knowledge of how the internet works realizes that once your words are “out there” on the internet, they are there for the good, or for the bad. That knowledge should, I emphasize should, cause people with any sense of intelligence to be careful about what they say. Unfortunately, that isn’t always the case.

We often hear about and are alarmed by cases of online bullying involving teens in various social networking sites, but when it comes to grown adults using their words to humiliate and criticize other adults publicly, not enough is said about it in my opinion. I find it especially disturbing to hear about so-called “A-Listers” (those who have a very popular, highly sought after blog or website) who decide to take it upon themselves to publicly harass and humiliate another blogger, which occurred recently on Twitter.

Just last week one of my favorite bloggers, FussyPants, experienced the attack of the A-Lister MommyBlogger, wherein the unnamed but well-known and so-called A-Lister blogger accused Fussy of copying a half a dozen original blogging themes from other bloggers, including the use of condescending terms such as “parasitic” to describe Fussy.

Mind you, this war of words was carried out publicly on Twitter, with fans of both bloggers having a knock-down-drag-out-fight-fest on Twitter. While I agree the A-Lister has the right to her own opinion (don’t we all?), to express her opinion in the manner she chose wreaks of fear and jealousy as the motivating force behind the whole ordeal.

Another blogger found herself accidentally caught up in a blogging war, where leaving a comment that was intended to compliment and commend a well-written post created a war of words she wasn’t even aware of, unfortunately costing her a number of subscribers.

As bloggers, we all have a responsibility to understand how our opinions can offend and hurt others, and not use our blogs or other public forums to tear down and humiliate others.

There are a number of blogs I subscribe to that include posts and opinions that are sometimes completely different from my own. That’s part of the beauty of having my own blog, where I can express my personal views and opinions, and those who read or subscribe to my blog have the right to disagree with everything and anything I say. There are blog posts that talk about issues relating to whether or not porn is good or bad in marriages, but due to my very strong opinions on that subject (I’m totally against it), I prefer to not participate by commenting on those posts.

We all have our own opinions, and I’ll be damned if I’m ever going to hold back from expressing my opinions wherever I see fit, but we also have the responsibility as grown adults to be mindful of what we say and how we say it, and the impact our words will have on others. Can’t we all just learn to get along and play nice with each other?

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7 Responses to “Blogging War of Words – Live and Let Live”

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  1. April says:

    I’ve heard about this through a few different blogs that I read, so the drama has really spilled out into the blogosphere.

    Makes me soooo glad I’m not an A-lister. I’m perfectly content being on, like, the M or N list.

  2. Lin says:

    April, what crossed my mind when I heard about it was the legacy it leaves behind for children, grandchildren etc who may one day begin genealogy research and may find this nonsense to add to their collection. Once this stuff is out there, it’s out there for good.

  3. You go girl,

    I loved the last bit the most, where you ranted about not holding back on telling and I agree with you.

    To answer your question, I don’t think we will ever all get along, even though I wish for it to happen myself. What makes me upset is the fact that people who have a good heart get caught up in all that crap.

    I’m going to read those posts you referred to now and make up my own opinion. I am entitled to it am I?

    Thanks Lin for picking up on this. I also think we can never talk about these atrocities enough until they disappear for good.

    Thanks for the link too, it is very much appreciated.

  4. Lin says:

    Monika, it really upset me to hear about both situations, and these are only two of recent online war of words. It does seem that once a blogger becomes very popular that they then become the target of others, whether it’s a matter of disagreeing on “how to” topics related to blogging, or bloggers that write about the worn out topic of “make money online”. It sickens me when I see blog posts that flame and degrade others, and I lose respect for those carrying out this behavior.

  5. Descartes says:

    The nice thing about having an editor is that they can tell you when not to bother with this kind of stuff. I need an editor to tell me how to write, but that is another story.

    We all think that we are the most important person in the world and that everyone is taking advantage of us. A-List or not, most people don’t know or care about we poor bloggers.

  6. I’m just happy to have friends like you!

  7. Lin says:

    Hiya Fussy, that makes two of us. 🙂