10 Ways to Raise Children to USE Drugs

1.  Obey their demands. Give in to their tantrums. Deny them nothing. If they want it, indulge them. Make sure they know you will always be there to get them out of trouble. If they break a toy or wreck a car, replace it.

2. Overlook, defend, or rescue them from the consequences of their negative behavior. Accept their excuses or blame others by saying things such as, “My child would never do that!”, “It can’t be her fault; it must be the school’s fault!”, or “The other child made him do it.”

3. Disregard moral principles. Be dishonest. Involve your children in lying or cheating others and taking pleasure in the misfortune of others. Encourage insecurity by telling them to keep secrets from other family members or family secrets from others.

4. Avoid touching, hugging, and taking time to interact with your children. Deny the existence of their emotional and social needs. Discourage them from expressing feelings and isolate them from friends, organizations, and activities. Disregard their physical needs.

5. Ignore their worthwhile and constructive habits. Avoid complimenting or praising their efforts. When they have done something well, make fun of it. Belittle their ideas, interests, and accomplishments. Dwell on their weaknesses. Expect them to fail. Express hopelessness in their ability to succeed or to cope positively with life’s stresses.

6. Pretend you never make mistakes or have problems. Expect perfection from your children. Judge them harshly if they make a mistake or misbehave. Never forgive, but instead hurt and degrade them by yelling, blaming, shaming, whipping, humiliating, or threatening to abandon them.

7. Establish and enforce tough, rigid rules. Discourage thought and questions by demanding that they do what you want, when you want it done. Never help them think of ways to work through their own problems. Demonstrate your distrust of them by questioning everything they do, and discount their right to privacy and independence as they mature.

8. Keep children constantly on guard by being unpredictable. Become angry at an action one day and laugh at it the next. Avoid any kind of routine. Let them decide when to eat and sleep. Allow them to watch television continually without your supervision or guidance. Avoid traditions. Rarely eat dinner as a family. Treat them differently. Have a “favorite” child who can do no wrong and a “bad” child who can do no right.

9. Remain uninformed about drugs and drug use. If you smoke, drink alcohol excessively, or use other drugs, make excuses and deny your own use. Never discuss your attitudes or feelings about drugs. Disregard the facts concerning the negative effects drugs have on the mind and body.

10. Above all else, discount your own value as a human being. Communicate anger and resentment toward life. Engage in self-indulgent, self-destructive behaviors.

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18 Responses to “10 Ways to Raise Children to USE Drugs”

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  1. Valerie says:

    This is an awesome article! I wish that I can e-mail it to the X so that he could understand that this is what his behavior will cause!

  2. Lin says:

    Hi Valerie, thank you for the compliment. All these behaviors lead to many problems while raising children, teens etc to adulthood. It’s no wonder why parents are having so much difficulty understanding the issues of “helping vs. enabling” I write so much about. If only parents would realize they are cause and reason why kids are lazy and unmotivated when they become adults and parents want and expect their then-grown kids to be independent and living on their own. Surprise! It doesn’t work that way in the real world.

  3. J @ Octamom says:

    Really clever way to bring the point home! Great post!

    Blessings!

  4. Lin says:

    Hi J, thank you for the compliment. Welcome to Telling It Like It Is.

  5. Carole says:

    This post made me want to cry.

    Letting your kids live with the consequences of their actions is very difficult sometimes. My daughter is living through one now, and it tears my heart out.

    It’s not anything really terrible. She doesn’t use drugs, or anything like that. She just made a bad decision and has to live with it for a while. It’s tough.

  6. Lin says:

    Carole, children have to be allowed to deal with the consequences of their choices and decisions, no matter how hard it is to stand by as a parent and watch. Parents must not rescue their kids from consequences of poor choices, as this only teaches children, teens and adult children that they can do whatever they want regardless of what it is, because mom and/or dad will come running to the rescue every single time and get them out of the trouble they brought on themselves.

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