Finding good quality divorce books can seem like looking for a needle in a haystack, including helpful and informative books on divorce for children and teens, while parents primarily deal with the divorce process and their own emotions over the breakup of the family.
Getting a divorce is not only a difficult process to go through, but it’s also a highly emotional time for anyone who has ever been through a divorce or been affected by divorce, especially the children. Parents who feel that divorce is their only alternative need to think less about how to get a divorce and more thought and planning to providing their children the love and support they need before, during and after the separation and divorce.
Divorce books for children play an important role in helping kids deal with the stress, anxiety, fear, emotional pain and turmoil so common amongst children of divorce. If possible, have divorce children’s books ready and available before telling children about your divorce, but if your kids already know about your plans to get a divorce, be quick about getting your children the best divorce books available for children, as well as divorce books for teens, as opposed to focusing on getting a quick divorce.
Children’s Divorce Books
Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way, by M. Gary Neuman – Kids tend to blame themselves when parents divorce. The Sandcastles workshop–now mandatory in over a dozen counties throughout the United States–is a half-day group session for children of divorce between the ages of 6 and 17. Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce details many of the workshop exercises, all designed to increase communication, understanding, and togetherness between parents and kids.
It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear: A Read-Together Book for Parents and Young Children During Divorce, by Vicki Lansky – It’s Not Your Fault is an illustrative picture book designed to be read by parents to their children, between the ages of 3 to 7, focusing on the emotions that children of divorce experience such as fear, anger and sadness. Parents can use it help their kids express their emotions and concerns in a delicate and sensitive manner. Children are reassured that their feelings are natural, that their parents still love and will care for them, and that the divorce is not their fault. Included are targeted points for parents, offering information and advice about what the kids are going through, and the best way to handle each issue as it arises.
Mama and Daddy Bear’s Divorce, by Cornelia Maude Spelman – This book provides reassurance for young preschool children in particular. With simple sentence structure and picture illustrations showing children that, as painful and confusing as divorce may be for them, it does not mean that both parents will no longer be part of the child’s life. The words used to describe the divorce and what divorce means are carefully chosen, with the overall message that although the family does not live together, everyone is loved. Families with a strong emphasis on co-parenting will likely prefer a different book.
Dinosaurs Divorce: A Guide to Changing Families, by Marc Brown & Laurie Krasny Brown – The chapters in Dinosaurs Divorce address such concerns as why parents divorce, what will happen to the child following the divorce, how and where holidays will be celebrated, living in two homes and when parents begin dating. It is a guide and resource for young children and parents with simple, easy-to-understand sentences for children ages 4-8, along with illustrated pictures that help young children discuss the feelings about the divorce and problems they are experiencing. It would be best for parents to pick and choose which chapters to read to the child as needed.
There are many good books for parents to read about separation and divorce that both mother’s and father’s would be benefited by. Deal with your own emotions of anger, fear, sadness, loss etc without adding to the child’s problems.