What It Means to “Let Go”

To “let go” does not mean to stop caring,
it means I can’t do it for someone else.

To “let go” is not to cut myself off,
it’s the realization I can’t control another.

To “let go” is not to enable,
but to allow learning from natural consequences.

To “let go” is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To “let go” is not to try to change or blame another,
it’s to make the most of myself.

To “let go” is not to care for,
but to care about.

To “let go” is not to fix,
but to be supportive.

To “let go” is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.

To “let go” is not to be in the middle arranging the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their own destinies.

To “let go” is not to be protective,
it’s to permit another to face reality.

To “let go” is not to deny,
but to accept.

To “let go” it not to nag, scold or argue,
but instead to search out my own shortcomings, and correct them.

To “let go” is not to adjust everything to my desires
but to take each day as it comes,
and cherish myself in it.

To “let go” is not to criticize and regulate anybody
but to try to become what I dream I can be.

To “let go” is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.

To “let go” is to fear less,
and love more.

(Unknown Author)

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  1. Hi Lin,

    I like this poem. All-in-all, I tend to agree with it’s message …

    The ability to “let go” is almost always a sign of a mature, well adjusted person, who is able to see life through the lens of the “big picture”.


  2. Lin says:

    Hi Todd, I really liked this poem about letting go. It comes in very handy for Monday’s upcoming post. You’ll see what I mean…

  3. This is good! I’ve been struggling with this lately in terms of continuing to bail out someone or letting that person experience a consequence so that they would actually do something for themselves instead of depending on others and maybe learn something from that. I just hope I don’t lose the friendship. But I can’t afford to keep giving away the income I work for to this person who is just as capable of getting a job–even one he thinks is beneath him.


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