Support Groups for Parents with Grown Adult Children Living at Home with Parents

Numerous emails from parents needing help in finding support groups for parents with grown, adult children living at home have arrived in my inbox, especially after reading How to Stop Enabling: When Our Grown Children Disappoint Us and the “Helping vs. Enabling” articles listed there that deal with the difference between helping and enabling and parenting adult children.

Having grown, adult children at home with the parents, after adult children leave home to attend college, get married and start having families of their own, creates enormous problems and conflicts for many families.

Frustrated parents begin searching for a “child parent contract” with a list of “adult children rules” for grown children and parents to agree on and sign, only to discover the hard way that rules for adult children, parent child contracts and adult children moving back home rarely (if ever) works for either the parent or the adult children.

Having adult children living at home may temporarily ease some of the empty nest feelings and emotions for parents, but thinking that you are truly helping your child by allowing your grown children to move back home, especially lazy adult children who refuse to work, don’t budget or live within their means etc will not cure empty nest syndrome, but your enabling behavior will cripple your adult children.

It’s time to stop enabling, and there are online support groups, forums and/or message boards to help you stop enabling people that can, should and need to be doing things for themselves.

CafeMom is the largest support group/social networking site for moms and moms-to-be. Included amongst the various support groups found at CafeMom are groups for parents with adult children at home (commonly referred to as Boomerang Kids).

There you will experience emotional help and support in setting boundaries between parents and adult children, and groups of women/parents sharing personal stories of their adult children living at home and discussing ideas of getting these kids out of the parent’s house once and for all.

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14 Responses to “Support Groups for Parents with Grown Adult Children Living at Home with Parents”

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  1. Bill says:

    What about when Mom is the enabler? Any support groups for men?

  2. Lin says:

    Hi Bill,

    I searched and searched for online support groups for men who are dealing with an enabler but I haven’t been able to find any specific groups for men. I recall some discussion awhile back about CafeMom starting a new site called CafeDad, but so far I haven’t found any updates on that either. I’m sorry!

  3. Emily says:

    What about groups for adult children who can’t get out and desperately need to NOT have a relationship with their parents (who can be more like children)

    • Lin says:

      Hi Emily,

      I’m not sure what you mean by “can’t get out”. I don’t know if you mean that you’re an adult child living with your parents for financial reasons, or if maybe you’re an adult caring for an elderly parent. ??

      If you are dealing with a difficult relationship with toxic parents, you may want to read my article about toxic family members to see if that applies to your situation or not. Perhaps with more clarification of what you mean, I can direct you further. The CafeMom support groups site has many many members dealing with all sorts of problems that may apply to you as well.