Sex Every Day for Married Couples – 30 Day Sex Challenge
Sex every day is most men’s fantasy, whereas most women dream of emotional intimacy in their marriage or relationship, as well as a satisfying sex life. The 30 Day Sex Challenge is a marriage enrichment program, developed by Tampa Florida’s Relevant Church Head Pastor Paul Wirth, for married couples to determine their personal and unique emotional needs in order to build upon and improve their marital relationship.
Cheating Spouse
Is he cheating? Is she cheating? Is your spouse cheating? Why do men cheat? Why do women cheat? Lack of intimacy in marriage or dating relationships. Men want and need intimacy too, despite the common and mistaken belief that all men have a fear of intimacy or that all men have commitment phobia.
The differences between men and women in communication styles often create marriage problems and marital conflict that can sometimes lead to an unhappy marriage, broken marriage, separation and divorce, sometimes due to a cheating husband (cheating boyfriend) or wives cheating (cheating girlfriends) as well as other relationship problems.
Relationship experts agree that the main reason why men cheat (or why women cheat) is because both of the individuals are not meeting each others deepest emotional needs and then wonder why they are not connecting on a sexual level and enjoying sexual fulfillment within the bounds of their own marriage or relationship.
Affair Proof Marriage
In order to have an affair-proof marriage, couples must take the time to learn how to communicate effectively and learn each others needs and desires
Regardless of the excuses and so-called “reasons” why husbands cheat or why wives cheat, cheating is wrong and immoral, and there is no legitimate way to minimize the effects of marriage infidelity on marriages and children.
30 Day Sex Challenge
The 30 Day Sex Challenge 
The sex challenge series is biblically and scripturally based, teaching singles that the Relevant Church (if not all churches) believe that God has reserved sex for married couples and if done God’s way, married sex can and should be the best sex of their lives.
***Also See: How to Please a Woman in Bed, Pleasure and Satisfy Her Completely***
To “have a stable relationship you need to be connecting spiritually, emotionally, and sexually and in that order”, says Paul Wirth. For the sex challenge, single men and women can’t have sex for 30 days, and married couples are urged to have sex every day.
The Sex Challenge:
- Each person, whether single or married, take the emotional needs test, then daily begin to meet the needs of the other person without thinking of themselves
- Each person fills out the daily journal after reading the questions and the scripture verses, and then write down his or her answers to the questions and thoughts about the verses
- Then the couples exchange journals with their partners and discuss them.
- Last the married couples are to be sexually intimate every day for 30 days (sex is more than just intercourse) and single couples are to abstain from sex for 30 days (any form of sex)
Couples participating in the sex challenge work through questions that deal with personal feelings, fears, uncertainties and joys that come up because of the sex challenge, helping couples build intimacy into the relationship and give the couple a fresh passion for each other. It makes for a win-win relationship.
Married couples can and need to take necessary steps to keep the fire alive in their marriage, not only with good communication but also with selfless giving in and out of the bedroom, which works well to affair proof your marriage.
Openly discussing emotional and sexual needs before getting married is vital for a healthy and happy marriage, and discussions of sex in marriage should never be a taboo subject after the wedding, otherwise how will your husband or wife know what you want or need emotionally or sexually in order to feel happy and fulfilled in your marriage?
Make the decision today to affair proof your marriage by taking the 30 Day Sex Challenge
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My husband and I took a second honeymoon this summer–after spending a year repairing our marriage. One of my goals during the honeymoon was to have sex everyday. We didn’t even make it 7 days–but we did achieve 5 out of 7. And it was worth making the goal. Now, I find that making sex a regular occurrence is our married life is really a matter of priority–making sure we make the time for it, and making sure we (mostly me) destress enough to want to make the time for it. He helps me destress by doing more around the house and picking up more slack with the parenting. Yes, dish washing can really be a turn on!
Alisa, as you said, sex must be a priority in marriage. Unfortunately, many excuses are often used by both husbands and wives about why they are not having sex regularly, and sometimes find they are having terrible marital problems.
Sex must be a priority in marriage and all the excuses that anyone could possibly come up with will not change that fact. Congratulations to you and your husband for your achievements!
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hey Lin,
Now I understand the picture you selected for this post (four legs in bed sticking out from a blanket). The couple in the picture can’t afford a big enough blanket so they have to do something to keep warm!
~ Steve, aka Mr. Booth Displays
LOL Steve, yeah sure…..that’s why I chose that picture. LOL! Not!
Actually, I think they’re probably hiding under the covers just in case any of the kiddos walk in…
7:09pm to 7:12pm… 3 minutes.
Lin, if there was an award for fastest blog comment reply time, you would win hands down! Do you have some kind of remote bug in your ear that alerts you when a blog comment comes in? I am consistently amazed.
~ Steve, aka Mr. Booth Displays
I must be slipping. Three whole minutes? LOL I was on Twitter when you commented so I saw it coming.
Sex is a very important aspect of married life. You may have a great deal of love between yourself.. But sex is a form of expressing it!
Hi Janet, that’s why the sex challenge is helpful for couples, as having sex every day not only deepens the level of intimacy amongst couples but it also reminds couples of the need to make time for each other separate and apart from the time involved with the children.
True.. But how can couples in long distance relationships make sure to keep alive the flame? You see long distance relationships are the most challenging of all.. N it takes a great deal of effort and dedication to make it work.
I wish there was some exercise-challenge for that too..!
LOL Lin – I used to have sex every day when I first met my second husband. But it gets really tiring and time consuming to do it every single day – so I won’t join in the challenge.
Janet, long distance relationships are very, very difficult and extremely challenging in many ways. As an example,military families/spouses aren’t in a position to choose whether or not to have a long distance relationship, but there was a new report out in today’s newspaper about the high number of divorces for military couples. Being apart for long periods of time makes for very unhappy/lonely marriages, and according to various studies I’ve read about, there is a much higher liklihood of infidelity.
I would never recommend or encourage long distance relationships (unless of course where there is no choice, such as for those in the military). Choosing to have a long distance relationship (rather than doing whatever is necessary to be together daily/nightly) is dangerous for married couples in many ways, especially due to the temptations of infidelity.
Couples that are able to make long distance relationships work are probably a rarity, but I’m sure some of them at least are able to make it work, whereas many if not most others end up breaking up and get a divorce.
LOL Cath, it’s a good kind of tired though!
Great articvle. Sex can be the biggest block to the success of any relationship, and sex alone isn’t enough. As you say intimacy is a part of sex.
And I agree totally that sex within a good marriage can be the best sex of your life. It takes time to get to know someone and what they like.
But for me, after 15 years of marriage our sex life is better than it was when we got married. No cheating for me, I want good sex.
Hi Peter, thanks for stopping by. Many married couples don’t even realize how important it is to discuss sex within their marriage, preferring to drop “hints” instead. That doesn’t work very well.
Hmm.. I guess I have to agree. Long distance relationships work on the principles of commitment and honesty and all.. But in due course it becomes too much. There are times when it gets very demanding and patience levels take a dip.
However, I am hopeful that mine works out… even in the face of all oddities.
Nice and thoughtful article, Lin. Well, it’s easy to get married, but it’s hard to keep the married couples to satisfy in Sex 365 days!
However, after reading your post, I think all the married couples should take these suggestions/advices, if they want to have the “happily ever after marriage!”
Hello Lin my husband and I are 24 and have been married for 6 yrs. The first few months we did have sex almost every day. After the first few months it decreased to a regularity of one to three times a month and at some point every other month but it has returned to a monthly basis.
We don’t have children but we both are full time UC Berkley students. We live with my in-laws, his brother and girlfriend this is a huge strain on our sex life. We have only been in school and living with my in-laws for 3 yrs. I don’t know what the problem is.
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Let me tell you a little about our history we where both virgins when we started to date at 16 and would have sex every weekend when we where dating. Ones we got married it all went down and now its like I said its down to maybe once to three times a month and it is usually a week or so before my period and just for like that weekend and it last about 2 to 5 min of intercourse. I believe its only “nature calling” to spread his seed that is making him have the need to have sex. I have tried everything you have suggested but it only works when he has no school work or exams. I think that his turn off is that I am much heavier than when I first got married I have gained about 75 lbs with in a yr of when we first got married. I have lost about 15 lbs since we started school. I don’t know what is considered a normal sex life (frequency, duration, or anything) considering we have only been with each other.
I don’t know what to do can you help answer my questions and concerns?
Thank you,
College Girl
Hi College Girl, your concerns are normal. You and your husband have a lot going on in your lives right now. The stress of being in college and taking exams and trying to deal with the difficulties of living with relatives etc, must be crazy for both of you.
If you were to do an online search for information on how many times a week or month a married couple “should” have sex, you’ll find a whole variety of opinions. What is “normal” or “average” sexual activity and “normal/average” frequency for married couples/dating couples vary with each couple. Typically the opinions say anywhere between 2-5 times a week. But not having sex that many times a week/month doesn’t mean a couple is not “normal” or average.
From what you’ve described here, it appears to me that there may be a few different reasons for the decline in your sex life with your husband.
Stress and anxiety over school/grades/exams would definitely be on the list. Living with other people as opposed to you and your husband living on your own with privacy would be very very high on the list of causes for the problems. It’s hard to say whether or not your weight gain has anything to do with it; some men actually prefer a more voluptuous woman’s body over a “thin/skinny” body.
2-5 minutes of sexual intercourse? Then it’s all over? Done? From start to finish? Yikes! Is it possible that your husband suffers from “premature ejaculation” by any chance, or he is just wanting to get it over with quickly? Why????
Have you talked this over with your husband and asked him directly (kindly) about your concerns? What does he say about your sex life? Is he happy with it?, the frequency? Duration? Have you asked him if he’s feeling stressed out due to school/finances/your weight gain/stress over living with the relatives? What does he say?
You both are very young, and aside from any medical related problems with sexual functioning (difficulty achieving or maintaining an erection?), it would seem that the problems are related to stress and other similar factors you’ve mentioned. The fact that you mentioned his desire for sex mostly/only being during times where there’s no school work or exams, should tell you a lot. Stress, stress and more stress. Most likely. Then coming home (to someone else’s “home”) and trying to have a marital relationship only adds more stress on top of what he’s already dealing with.
If I were you, I’d be doing whatever was necessary…to move into your own place by yourselves like…………yesterday. Like asap….pronto. Don’t be too quick to judge your weight gain on being the cause of the problems. That may or may not have anything to do with it. Talk to your husband away from the stress related environments, and kindly ask him about what his thoughts are on your sex life, and what if anything he’d like to see change in that regard. Communication and discussing these things openly and honestly (even if it hurts) can greatly improve your overall relationship and sex life, or non communication can completely destroy any chance of fixing the problems. Talk to your hubby, and let me know how it goes.
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