This is My Blog and I Will Blog Whatever I Want

Audacious Yes, this is MY blog and I will blog or write about whatever I want, thank you very much. I almost titled this post, “Telling It Like It Is is Not For the Faint of Heart”, which on some levels is very true.

Over the last several months there have been an increasing number of what I refer to as lurkers, spammers, trolls, haters, naysayers and perverts emailing me and attempting to leave pathetic comments on posts.

Some of the worst offenders are those arriving from those pesky “DoFollow blog lists”, where newbie bloggers show up like a bat out of hell, dive-bombing this site in hopes of getting a link back to their site by leaving a pathetic “great blog, keep it up” sort of comment. If you have a blog of your own, you are likely well aware of these pests.

Telling It Like It Is has a comment policy and privacy policy like all/most other blogs and websites have, including a “mark as spam” button and a “delete” button, which I use quite frequently. If “DoFollow” dive bombers wish to continue wasting their time targeting this site for a backlink, knock yourselves out…but if you ever decide to check back to see if your “comment” was approved…you’ll be sadly mistaken.

Running a close second behind the dive bombers are those who are none too happy that I continue to write about child sexual abuse, especially the articles that tell kids and victims to tell they are being sexually abused now or were sexually abused by someone in the past.

I have received emails and attempted comments from people who are not happy at all that the Protect Our Children Act was passed. Now, readers, you tell me…what kind of person would NOT want me or anyone else having the “audacity” to be telling kids to tell someone they are or were sexually abused? Think about that for a minute, then come to your own conclusions.

Blog Post Ideas – Being Audacious

Blog post ideas for Telling It Like It Is come from a large number of sources, which I will get to in a minute. I rarely if ever experience writer’s block (so far), and I write blog posts with audacity and I’m proud of it. My blog is not a “feel good blog”, nor is it a “beat around the bush” blog, and it is certainly not a “tiptoe through the tulips” kind of blog.

I work hard at being an audacious blogger, and the articles about sexual abuse, abusive relationships and the numerous helping vs. enabling posts are emotionally difficult for me to write. I write them anyway and will continue to do so. I am passionate about the topics I write on this blog, even though there are thousands of bloggers who write better than I do, with perfect spelling, grammar, sentence structure and phrasing on every single blog post published.

“If you’re not afraid to be rejected, you keep putting your hand up. If you’re not afraid to be ignored, you keep putting yourself out there. If you’re not afraid to be criticized, you do exactly what you want. If you’re not afraid to make contact with someone more successful than you, you’ll create your own opportunities.”

I am not afraid. I will not be deterred.

I am not a social networking know-it-all, but I put myself out there anyway, meeting and making connections with fellow writers and bloggers in an out of my own “niche”. I am not a “Pro Blogger” by any stretch of the imagination, nor do I feel the need or pressure to become one. I make mistakes while writing and creating blog posts (especially when trying a new and unfamiliar html-type code thingamagig), such as I did on the how to plan a wedding article, turning it into a complete fiasco until I was able to fix it. Oh well…, live and learn as I go.

Okay, blog post ideas…, where I get mine. Aside from the fact that I read a lot, be it books, magazines, news articles online or offline etc, there are a variety of places I go to get my blog post ideas to avoid writer’s block. Here is a short list of those places, in no particular order.

Woopra – If you have a blog or are considering starting a blog, you MUST get Woopra. Woopra, by far, is the most comprehensive, information rich, easy to use, real-time, LIVE Web tracking and analysis application I have ever seen. Woopra provides so much unique information about visitors to your blog/website and how they arrive at your site, it will blow your mind. And it’s free! Woopra’s ability to track keywords/search terms (amongst other things) people have used to arrive at my blog or specific blog posts has already provided me MANY ideas for blog posts, and it’s only getting better by the day.

Google Alerts – Google Alerts are email updates received in your inbox of the latest relevant Google results (web, news, blogs, video, etc.) based on your interests or topics. Email updates from Google alerts can be received “as it happens”, “once a day” or “once a week”, whichever you prefer. I currently have two blogs and am in process of building a third, and receiving email alert messages based on my keywords of choice has brought about more blog post ideas than I could ever have imagined.

Audacious Pippi Longstocking StumbleUponWikipedia describes StumbleUpon as an “internet community that allows its users to discover and rate Web pages, photos, and videos”. Basically, StumbleUpon users choose to rate (or not rate) a web page, blog post, pictures or video by way of the “thumbs up” or “thumbs down” feature from the StumbleUpon toolbar, which can result in massive amounts of web traffic from online friends or peers. StumbleUpon is sort of like word-of-mouth advertising from referrals. Online friends and peers have sent me links to articles with messages suggesting I do a blog post on that subject, but in my own “Tell It Like It Is” writing style. One such post was the Miley Cyrus Going Topless “rant” that caught the attention of the New York Times and LA Times, because I was being audacious and bold!

Twitter, Facebook, Google Adwords Keyword Tool,  Google Trends and Blogs I’m subscribed to by RSS Feed or email have also brought numerous blog post ideas already found on this site, and still more to come. With the numerous categories and topics I can cover within my blog niche, I would be hard-pressed to run out of things to write about and I have no intention of ever doing so. That’s how I roll.

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20 Responses to “This is My Blog and I Will Blog Whatever I Want”

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  1. Forest says:

    I’ll be honest before I start this comment… I came here by typing into google, comment luv, dofollow, frugal… The intention is to read a lot of blog posts in my niche, gain backliinks if possible and maybe get some new reader connections. By doing this search I hoped to cut back on my time and achieve a lot of things in a shorter time.

    I do realise your blog is “nofollow” but I do not consider myself a spammer and felt inclined to leave a comment. About the spam, I know exactly what you mean as I run a few blogs myself… I hate auto spam but I am happy for keywords to be used with a valid comment and a name signoff.

    On the child act. Children need protecting and this is something close to my heart. I was never personally abused sexually and I thank whatever mighty being is up there for this every day as have close friends who have gone through such things. And that was pre-internet.

    Thank you for taking the time to write about such issues. I’m subscribing by email this instance.

    .-= Forest´s last blog ..Pampered Chef Recipes =-.

    • Lin says:

      Hi Forest,

      Your comment is a Real comment, not at all like those who “dive bomb” my blog quite frequently. I write about a lot of different things on this site “you never know what you’re going to get” with each new post. Welcome to my blog, thank you for subscribing and I look forward to your continued participation in the comments and discussion. Have a wonderful day!

  2. Forest says:

    Thank you very much Lin, I look forward to reading more 🙂
    .-= Forest´s last blog ..Cooking Light Recipes =-.

  3. wilson says:

    Well, Lin. I have two words for all those spammers who keep spamming your blog, “Screw Them!”

    Honestly, this is your blog and you have the rights to delete, elaborate or edit anything you want. Stick with your own policy and you’ll be alright!
    .-= wilson´s last blog ..You Shouldn’t Let Your Baby Eat Too Much Eggs! =-.

    • Lin says:

      Wilson, I couldn’t help but put in my “two cents” about being bombarded by spammers. Plus, there are SO MANY of the “do follow” dive bombers that are clueless about how to effectively comment on blogs so that they’re comment will be approved. Of course, Forest is one out of how many that actually “gets it”. 🙂

  4. ChrisCD says:

    I came here before because of a dofollow search. Although, I felt I had left a good comment, you didn’t approve it. No problem. It is your blog.

    But, if you want to get your messages out to as many as possible, you should be thankful to those dofollow searches that are bringing people here. Some of them are spammers, maybe even a lot of them. But some of them are people who although are hoping for a link, will appreciate what you are doing and probably give you a link.

    Note that I did not include my website on this comment. Whenever I leave comments I do my best to make sure it is relative to the post and blog. If I can’t add anything, I don’t leave a comment. Forest (who I actually know) and I came here because of those searches.

    I have six children of my own and whenever I see or hear a story about someone that has abused a child, I wish a bullet were put in their head.

    I’m sorry you get so much spam. I get quite a bit, too. I just delete them and move on. Hopefully, in the future I won’t be regarded as one of the bad guys.

    • Lin says:

      Hi Chris,

      I can’t possibly remember which comments you might be referring to. Most of the ‘do follow” comment spam I get is from bloggers who use “keyword names” for their name, and only say crap like “nice blog, keep it up” and junk like that. This comment from you is the legit, real thing all of us writers/bloggers wish for, rather than the crappy comments. Good job!

      • ChrisCD says:

        No problem. I will try my best to be a good citizen of this blog. It was a comment I had left on the Children not coming with Warning Labels. I probably did use keywords in my name.

        I do appreciate what you are trying to do and like your blog. You’ve got my email. Let me know if I can ever broadcast info for you.

        I’ll be back…cd :O)

        • Lin says:

          Thanks Chris, I appreciate the compliment.

          @Forest, I’m having my own little chuckle today because I mentioned in one of my earlier comments to you how subscribed readers “never know what you’re going to get” as far as my post topics. Then I remembered that was a phrase from the FOREST Gump movie! Ha! Oh I crack myself up, hehehe

          • Forest says:

            Ha ha!! My real name is actually Ian… Forest (Spelled incorrectly on purpose) was a nickname given to me in my teens.. When I started working online I decided to use it as my pen name 🙂

  5. Todd Morris says:

    Hey Lin,

    Good to see you back here on YOUR blog! As for the spammers … I’m a bit charitable, like you … I suspect that the great majority just don’t know any better.

    Anyhow, looking forward to reading more of your “great posts” 😉

    .-= Todd Morris´s last blog ..My T-Mobile Sidekick Died =-.

    • Lin says:

      Hi Todd, I know there are many blogs that allow keyword names and that’s fine, for them. I much prefer they use a “real” name and then put something like @ [insert blog title] if they want to. Have a safe trip over there and watch your back.

  6. Periapex says:

    Great post. Keep up the good work!

    Just kidding…not about the great post part…or about the good work. Boy, now I’ve confused myself.

    See you on Twitter!
    .-= Periapex´s last blog ..Riverdance. =-.

  7. Liza says:

    I sometimes have trouble “telling it like it is” on my blog, which I would LOVE to do. I often write about non-conventional topics that are important to me. However, even though I am an adult, I was crushed when I found out that my parents have found my blog! Knowing that they are reading every word makes me very uncomfortable writing things that I feel like writing. I guess using my real first name when I started the blog wasn’t such a good idea.

    I admire you – write what you want and what you need to express. I wish I could be that brave.
    .-= Liza´s last blog ..iPod Prices Reduced – New iPods Coming =-.

    • Lin says:

      Hi Liza,

      Have you ever heard the Dr. Seuss expression “Be who you are, say what you feel because those who matter don’t mind and those who mind don’t matter”?

      People sometimes “read into things that aren’t there” and never were. You can’t possibly write and/or filter every blog post or article on a blog because someone might think it’s about them. Many of my blog posts are or were written/created weeks and months ahead of when they are actually published. Thank goodness for WordPress and being able to get posts ready and dated for weeks and months out. Just keep doing what you’re doing.

  8. Janet Fox says:

    Welcome back Lin 🙂

    Gosh.. you made me sad with your blog post. I wonder what made you stop writing. In fact, I was just about to mail you. Its just that TILII has become a part of my day. I just have to check your blog before I go offline. 😉

    Anyways, spam commenting is a indeed a problem. Its like even if you moderate it… you need to spend a chunk of time sorting through them. But this just goes as a step to deter spammers and let them know they are NOT welcome!

    Keep up the good work Lin. You may never know how many people get strength to battle life’s odds by your words.

    Glad to see you back 🙂

    • Lin says:

      Hi Janet,

      There was a time where I would email the “spammers” and ask for a real name so I could approve the comment (if their comment was legit and not crappy), but I don’t do that anymore. I’d never get anything else done.

      Have a great day!

  9. Chris says:

    Wow… is this ever ironic…

    I stumbled onto your site because I Googled “how to stop enabling”, for reasons that are long and complicated (and I’m sure that’s a common theme around here).

    Long story short, there’s some people in my family who are being enabled (to their own eventual detriment/implosion), and the enablers mistakenly feel they are doing the right thing.

    All the guilt and headgames have created a strong delusion for them. And the only antidote for the never-ending “crisises” is to enable.

    I was looking for some ideas and otherwise “ammo” that I could retain should the situation escalate further.

    After reading a few articles I meandered over to the main page – and voila – I see this sort of rebuttal post.

    (Being a blogger myself with a “varied” audience, I can relate…)

    Now what’s ironic is that not only am I an internet marketer across many industries…

    …I also teach others how to do the same. Namely, about 20,000 webmasters and affiliate marketers subscribe to my marketing publications.

    And PARTICIPATING in active, “dofollow” blogs is one of the things I teach in regards to off-site SEO.

    The key word there is PARTICIPATE. Not “drop a one-liner” or “hope that your vague 3-word comment gets approved”.

    For incredibly obvious reasons, becoming an active participant/blog is exponentially more effective when it comes to getting comments approved, and therefore building those ever-necessary backlinks.


    I just think it’s funny that unlike all the other marketers who commented in this thread – I actually arrived here “organically”, so to speak, and in reverse order; finding this post incidentally while searching for your actual content.

    And going further, I’ve also been behind some of the well-meaning SEO tools that have been released, one of which dealt with finding dofollow blogs, for the purpose of PARTICIPATING for links.

    Unfortunately, the blog finder was being massively abused, so we pulled it off the market. Sounds a bit contradictory, but it’s true. (Those who know the industry and can recognize my writing style and first name will know what tool I’m talking about).

    Nevertheless, here I am leaving a comment without a backlink on a site where this was the last thing I was expecting to see 🙂

    It’s a strange world.

    Take care,


    P.S. Thanks for the content on enablement, as well as spelling out the damages thereof. I do indeed have some fresh “ammo” should there be a need for confrontation.

    Luckily, at this point it’s not my place to “fire”. But it may be shortly. So thank you…

    • Lin says:

      Hi Chris,

      Thanks for taking the time to address this issue about dofollow spammers and clueless dive-bombers. It really does get on my nerves, and I know I’m not the only one dealing with this sort of thing, nor will I be the last.

      A lot of the spammers make it soooo easy to delete or mark as spam their stupid “comment” because 1). I either see them coming on Woopra from dofollow referral lists and sites and/or 2) the spammers don’t read posts AT ALL and leave their pathetic nonsensical comment within two minutes of arriving (I dare anyone to TRY and READ one of my blog posts in just two ain’t happenin’) and/or 3) the comment consists of nothing but a keyword name and teeny-weency short phrase that far too often is completely OFF topic, but not always.

      Chris, I’m glad you arrived here organically and that you found the helping and enabling posts to be of help. Hopefully if/when the time comes to “fire” your newly found ammo, the enablers will get a wake up call.