This is a guest post from Dr. Michelle Gannon, a Relationship Expert and Psychologist who writes her own blog at www.drmichellegannon.com. Dr. Gannon is Founder of Marriage Prep 101, a Writer; Wife, Mom, Friend, Health, Fitness & Wellness Enthusiast.
When couples get engaged and plan their wedding, they are often busy with the excitement, details and stress of wedding planning. We spend a lot of time, money and energy on planning our weddings. Do you plan for your marriage?
Current research shows that the best way to build a lifelong marriage is to prepare for it. In our Marriage Prep 101 Workshops we apply the latest scientific research that shows what makes marriages succeed and fail.
Marriage preparation can help couples enhance their strengths, clarify expectations, identify areas needing change, learn and practice communication and conflict resolution skills, and develop more emotional and sexual intimacy. With attention and effort, most couples can create a strong relationship that will safeguard them against the inevitable strains of modern life.
Unfortunately, fifty percent of marriages end in divorce. Half of those report being happily married, soonly 25% of married couples consider themselves happily married. Taking a marriage preparation workshop can help couples increase the likelihood of happy, successful marriages.
The Facts About Marriage Preparation
Research by four studies has found that taking a skill-based marriage preparation class can reduce the divorce rate by 30%. Also, research has found that couples who increase their positivity, learn how to resolve conflict, prioritize their marriage, and avoid relationship traps are indeed able to increase satisfaction and longevity.
In addition, according to the research, when couples have a baby, 2/3 report that their marital satisfaction goes down. However, if they know how to prioritize and work on their marriage, they will be better able to transition to parenthood and reclaim their marriage after children to work well together as parents, friends and spouses.
Most of us take Driver’s Ed classes when we learn to drive, and childbirth classes when we are expecting a baby. Why not take a marriage preparation class to prepare for your marriage? We invest in what is important to us – our education, career, hobbies and interests, parenting, golf game, yoga practice…what about our relationships?
Prepare for the Big Issues
The first five years of marriage are essential to figure out how to have a satisfying friendship, romantic life, and partnership. The most popular issues during the first five years of marriage are time, sex and money.
Many couples continue to fight about domestic responsibilities and finances. Conflict is inevitable in a long-term relationship, so it is essential to learn healthy conflict resolution skills and emotional repair. Couples need to learn how to communicate well, express love and caring, have fun together, appreciate each other, and create a relationship that is satisfying to both.
Imagine being the person you really want to be, and creating a long-term marriage that you can be proud of. We believe that we can be intentional, committed, proactive and positive, and even have fun along the way!
Dr Michelle Gannon is a San Francisco Psychologist specializing in Relationships, Wellness and Women’s Issues. She has been in private practice for 20 years helping individuals and couples live more positive, happier lives. She teaches award winning workshops, Marriage Prep 101 for seriously dating, engaged and newlywed couples with her husband, Dr Patrick Gannon. Over the past 10 years, over 1200 couples have visited San Francisco to take their workshop and describe it as positive, proactive and fun!
Dr. Michelle Gannon has been featured on the CBS Early Show, Evening Magazine TV, The Kathleen Show, Ronn Owens Radio Show, Sex with Emily Radio Show, TIME, PEOPLE, San Francisco Chronicle, SF Gate, Kathleen Show Health and Wellness Blog, Hitched Magazine, and many other newspaper, magazine, radio and TV shows over the years.
Dr. Michelle Gannon is a Psychologist who is proactive about her own relationships and well being. She has been happily married for 15 years, and is a mother of 12 and 11 year old boys, a cat and a golden retriever. She deeply understands the importance and challenges of balancing her own business, career, family, marriage, friends, fitness, wellness and fun. She writes at her own blog, Dr Michelle Gannon and Marriage Prep 101 website and welcomes your comments. She also enjoys interacting on Twitter: @DrMichellexo.