Blogging War of Words – Live and Let Live

I’ve always enjoyed writing, whether online or offline. I’ve been writing for several years now, but have only had this online, very public forum to share my views and opinions on a variety of subjects for a little over a year and a half now. The internet is an amazing place for sure, where anyone with a computer can find information relating to their interests or problems from the privacy of their own homes.

Subscribing to and commenting on other blogs that interest me is also something I’ve enjoyed immensely, as there has been a feeling of community amongst fellow bloggers. That being said, there is also a growing trend where some bloggers use their own blogs, as well as other public forums such as Twitter, to criticize and humiliate other bloggers for any number of excuses.

Anyone with any real knowledge of how the internet works realizes that once your words are “out there” on the internet, they are there for the good, or for the bad. That knowledge should, I emphasize should, cause people with any sense of intelligence to be careful about what they say. Unfortunately, that isn’t always the case.

We often hear about and are alarmed by cases of online bullying involving teens in various social networking sites, but when it comes to grown adults using their words to humiliate and criticize other adults publicly, not enough is said about it in my opinion. I find it especially disturbing to hear about so-called “A-Listers” (those who have a very popular, highly sought after blog or website) who decide to take it upon themselves to publicly harass and humiliate another blogger, which occurred recently on Twitter.

Just last week one of my favorite bloggers, FussyPants, experienced the attack of the A-Lister MommyBlogger, wherein the unnamed but well-known and so-called A-Lister blogger accused Fussy of copying a half a dozen original blogging themes from other bloggers, including the use of condescending terms such as “parasitic” to describe Fussy.

Mind you, this war of words was carried out publicly on Twitter, with fans of both bloggers having a knock-down-drag-out-fight-fest on Twitter. While I agree the A-Lister has the right to her own opinion (don’t we all?), to express her opinion in the manner she chose wreaks of fear and jealousy as the motivating force behind the whole ordeal.

Another blogger found herself accidentally caught up in a blogging war, where leaving a comment that was intended to compliment and commend a well-written post created a war of words she wasn’t even aware of, unfortunately costing her a number of subscribers.

As bloggers, we all have a responsibility to understand how our opinions can offend and hurt others, and not use our blogs or other public forums to tear down and humiliate others.

There are a number of blogs I subscribe to that include posts and opinions that are sometimes completely different from my own. That’s part of the beauty of having my own blog, where I can express my personal views and opinions, and those who read or subscribe to my blog have the right to disagree with everything and anything I say. There are blog posts that talk about issues relating to whether or not porn is good or bad in marriages, but due to my very strong opinions on that subject (I’m totally against it), I prefer to not participate by commenting on those posts.

We all have our own opinions, and I’ll be damned if I’m ever going to hold back from expressing my opinions wherever I see fit, but we also have the responsibility as grown adults to be mindful of what we say and how we say it, and the impact our words will have on others. Can’t we all just learn to get along and play nice with each other?

It’s a Girl Thing – Beauty Secrets and Makeup Meme

Tyra BanksThe subject of beauty and makeup is definitely a girly-girl thing, and I had never heard of the beauty secrets and makeup meme until Megan tagged me, so I thought it might be fun to play along and see how this girly post turns out. I’m not sure I would say there is any real secret to using makeup, since I believe in the concept of “less is more” and allowing a woman’s natural beauty shine through. Sorry guys, this one’s for the ladies.

I do not consider myself to be a girly-girl, not after growing up with five brothers and no sisters to balance things out, but over a period of years my tomboy personality has evolved into one that is comfortably feminine and balanced. I still hate wearing dresses, after being forced to wear the most God-awful frilly frocks to church while growing up, and I’ve managed to avoid wearing the darn things (except my wedding dress) for much of my adult life.

My Foundation:

I’m not one to buy into the idea that women need to spend a lot of money on makeup in order to look good. Therefore my foundation is Cover Girl’s Ultimate Finish Liquid Powder Makeup in Creamy Natural, available at any grocery store or pharmacy on the planet.

My Mascara:

I also don’t stick with the same brand for each makeup item I buy. My mascara is Maybelline Full N’ Soft Waterproof Mascara, in black. Cheap, and it does the job it’s meant to do. Don’t you hate it how so many guys have long natural eyes lashes and us ladies have to pile on the goop just to make ours show up? What’s up with that?! My sons have the longest eye lashes I’ve ever seen on any man, and it’s simply not fair.

My Day Cream:

Oil of Olay Age Defying Face Cream. Yeah that’s right, age defying makeup. Those fine lines are appearing faster and faster as each day passes, and I’m not the least bit happy about it. It’s taken me awhile to find the best anti-wrinkle cream on the market, but I’ve finally found it.

My Essential Beauty Product:

Does sleep count? Getting the proper amount of rest helps reduce those nasty looking bags under the eyes, and no matter how much under-eye concealer is used, you can’t effectively cover up puffy, swollen eyes. So yeah, my essential beauty product is sleep. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

My Favorite Makeup Product:

I love the Noxzema Plus Moisturizers Deep Cleansing Cream, and have been using it for years. My daughter’s are all hooked on it as well, and will never again have to learn the hard way that using soap on their face is not a good idea. See, mommy is always right. Okay, almost always right, says youngest daughter standing over my shoulder.

My Perfume:

A few years ago I fell in love in with Fire & Ice by Revlon and have been using that perfume ever since. I’ve tried other perfumes and lotions given to me as Christmas or Birthday gifts, but I always go right back to my favorite perfume. When I was 12 years old, I used to love the smell of Coppertone tanning lotion, so I used it instead of perfume as a young girl. Fortunately I’ve grown out of that.

My Nails:

Eva LongoriaYes, I have nails and they cost me thirty dollars every two weeks at a local nail salon. I’d be more than happy to just have my natural nails, but since I can’t seem to keep them out of my mouth whenever I’m under a lot of stress, store bought nails work best for me. Plus my hubby says my nails are great for scratching his back. Hmm.

My Hands:

Umm, would Yes be the right answer? Yes, I have hands. Two to be exact. Oh, I’m probably supposed to talk about how I take care of my hands. I don’t use hand lotion very often, but when I do it’s usually Vaseline Intensive Care since it doesn’t have some disgustingly strong fragrance that would cause me to go and wash my hands all over again to get the stinky smell off.

My Feet:

My two feet are properly cared for with a regularly scheduled pedicure, and I love the foot and calf massage I get at each appointment. I usually don’t have much interest in having my toes painted with nail polish, except during spring and summer when I’m wearing sandals most of the time.

Three Products to bring on a deserted island:

  1. Sunblock since I get sunburned so easily. I’ve yet to be able to get a great tan because no matter how hard I try to get a tan that looks great, I just burn and peel.
  2. Listerine mouthwash. I work in the dental field, so that’s a given for sure.
  3. Batteries. LOTS and lots of batteries. For my electric toothbrush of course! What did you think I was gonna say?! But then again…, oh never mind. Ha!

Women I admire for their beauty:

Tyra Banks
Eva Longoria
Catherine Zeta-Jones

Women with the Best Sense of Style:

Everyone’s definition of style is different. What might be fashionable and trendy to some, especially young 20-something ladies and teens, just doesn’t fly with me. I don’t follow fashion trends, nor do I care about expensive brand names on clothing labels, because there are a lot of reasonably priced beautiful clothes, shoes and accessories in stores that women can choose from. I really can’t think of any famous or well-known women that I would say always show what I would consider to be the best sense of style in how they dress or present themselves, so I’ll have to skip this one.

My Ultimate Dream:

Catherine Zeta-JonesTo be able to work out of my home, doing something I enjoy immensely, and be my own boss.

How Do I Define Womanhood:

Strength. Courage. Wisdom. Grace. Beauty. Confident. Respectable. Happy.

My Favorite Fashion Publication:

It doesn’t exist.

Okay, let’s see…. Who to tag with this Beauty Secrets and Makeup Meme? FussyPants; The Mother Load and Suburban Oblivion. I can hardly wait to see what answers these three ladies will come up with. Laughing P.S. Please excuse the “dust” of my sidebars mishap, while I straighten out the unexplainable blitz of what my sidebars were looking like prior to this post. Update: The sidebar mishap has been fixed.

Smilie Saturday: Linky Love Weekend Roundup Second Edition

Smilie Saturday: Linky Love Weekend Roundup It’s the beginning of a long holiday weekend, with Memorial Day coming on Monday, so I wanted to end this week with a Smilie Saturday Linky Love post to showcase some great articles I’ve been reading that I’m sure you will enjoy as much as I have. You all are awesome writers, so keep up the good work!

I’ve also been interviewing some fabulous authors of books dealing with children and teens, including someone who was on the APA Task Force that I wrote about in my post about sexualizing children, and who participated in developing the in-depth APA Report I linked to in that article. That will be a great article (if I say so myself), so stay tuned for that. Now let’s get to the Weekend Roundup, shall we?

Weekend Roundup

Lynnae has begun a series of posts called (Not) Keeping Up With Our Parents, where Lynnae discusses her thoughts on the book “(Not) Keeping Up With Our Parents: The Decline of the Professional Middle Class” by author Nan Mooney. Entitlement issues has always been a topic that bothers me immensely, and anyone that has been a subscribed reader of my blog from its inception knows how strongly I feel about that subject.

FrugalDad wrote a fabulous article entitled How to Get Out of Credit Card Debt, and Stay Out, and it’s a great read with informative tips for people trying to get out of debt. With gas prices going up seemingly every ten minutes, eliminating debt (or at least greatly reducing debt) is a very wise plan.

Speaking of money and debt, check out Peter’s discussion Good News: Gas Prices Will Continue to Rise, and see if you can think of some ways you will or have begun tightening your financial “belt” due to higher gas prices. My hubby and I have been discussing trading in our vehicles and getting cars that are much more gas efficient, but my hubby is very tall so trying to find a vehicle he can even fit in creates another set of problems.

Allan Cockerill’s post Is It Possible To Have An Affair Without Sex is very interesting to say the least, including the video he’s running at the conclusion of the article. Cheating spouses are some the lowest forms of the human species in my opinion, and anyone considering having an affair needs to either fix the problems in their marriage or get out of the marriage and move on with their life, but don’t cheat on your spouse.

Christine’s post 10 Summer Jobs Your Teen May Not Have Considered is a must read for anyone with tweens or teens looking to find a job over the summer. The school year is almost over and kids will be looking for ways to make some money, and having a summer job is a great way of teaching kids responsibility and money management, as well as a great way of building self-esteem in children.

Last but not least, Jeremy and wife are Introducing Baby Caitlin into the world, weighing in at 5 lbs 6 oz, six full weeks ahead of the due date. The idea of giving birth to a 5 lb baby seems so foreign to me since each of mine weighed more than 8 lbs, and one son weighed 11 lbs! Mine must have weighed 5 lbs when I was about six months pregnant! Congratulations to Jeremy and family on the new arrival! Baby Tumbling

Have you made your Memorial Day plans yet? What will you be doing? I’ll be putting my hubby to work cooking out on the grill for sure, whipping us up some tasty BBQ slathered in sauce that sticks to the ribs. We will also be remembering and honoring those who gave their lives so that we can live in Freedom, including my father in-law who served in two wars, and saying prayers for our soldiers overseas and their families.

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind

Laughter Is The Best MedicineOf all the funny and inspirational quotes I’ve ever read, the title of this post conveys the motto I have lived by for most of my life, and I believe truer words could not be spoken. Being true to yourself and who you are as an individual is something I firmly believe in; having the courage and strength to stand up for what you believe in, even when others have a different viewpoint or opinion. Having the opportunity to have this blog, sharing my views on a variety of subjects that I am passionate about, makes me feel happy and giddy all at the same time.

Having a loving and supportive husband, continuously encouraging me along the way, makes me a truly blessed woman. He gave me a beautiful card the other day that had this inscription: “I always knew you were beautiful, generous and strong. But now I see just how tender you are as a mother. In this wonderful adventure we share, you never stop amazing me. Happy Mother’s Day.”

Some things I write about on this blog are very serious subjects, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have a funny and silly personality in everyday life. I have somehow found a wonderful balance in doing what is necessary to take care of my family, have time to further develop my writing skills, and share what I hope to be thought-provoking articles for you, my readers.

I believe that laughter is good for the soul, so reading books with quotes that inspire me and make me laugh is one of my favorite things to do. Today I want to share with you some of my all-time favorite funny and inspirational quotes, and I bet you’ll enjoy a good laugh right along with me.

Top 20 Funny and Inspirational Quotes:

  1. “It took me fifteen years to discover I had no talent for writing, but I couldn’t give it up because by then I was too famous.” Robert Benchley
  2. “If at first you don’t succeed, then sky diving definitely isn’t for you.” Unknown
  3. “How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak-because some day you will have been all of these…” George Washington Carver
  4. “I’ve learned that just when I get my room the way I like it, Mom makes me clean it up.” 13 yr-old
  5. “I’ve learned that you can’t hide a piece of broccoli in a glass of milk.” 7 yr-old
  6. “If you want a kitten, start out asking for a horse.” 10 yr-old
  7. “Ask “why” until you understand.” My daughter
  8. “You have to stay in shape. My grandmother, she started walking 5 miles a day when she was 60. She’s 97 today and we don’t know where the hell she is.” Ellen DeGeneres
  9. “Here’s something to think about: How come you never see a headline like ‘Psychic Wins Lottery’?” Jay Leno
  10. Funny and Inspirational Quotes“I know God will not give me anything I can’t handle. I just wish He didn’t trust me so much.” Mother Teresa
  11. “Courage is doing what you’re afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you’re scared.” Eddie Rickenbacker
  12. “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” Dr. Suess
  13. “The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.” Maureen Dowd
  14. “The brain is a wonderful organ; it starts working the moment you get up in the morning, and does not stop until you get into the office.” Robert Frost
  15. “I like long walks, especially when they are taken by people who annoy me.” Fred Allen
  16. “I’ve never been jealous. Not even when my dad finished the fifth grade a year before I did.” Jeff Foxworthy
  17. “Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.” George Burns
  18. “My mother’s menu consisted of two choices: Take it or leave it.” Buddy Hackett
  19. “Honolulu – it’s got everything. Sand for the children, sun for the wife, sharks for the wife’s mother.” Unknown
  20. “When I was a kid my parents moved a lot, but I always found them.” Rodney Dangerfield

Do you have any favorite quotes that make you laugh or that you find inspiring in some way? I’d love to know what your favorite quotes are, so let’s see ‘em. Laughing


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8 Random Things About Me

8 Random Things About MeI haven’t participated in any meme’s for awhile now, so when Rudy tagged me with the “8 Random Things About Me” meme, I figured I’d play along this time. It’s taken me a few days to think about what to include in this meme post, but I think I’ve come up with a few things that may make this at least somewhat interesting for my readers, with a little bit of help from my archives.

Here are the rules:

  1. Each player starts with 8 random facts/habits about themselves.
  2. People who are tagged, write a blog post about their own 8 random things, and post these rules.
  3. At the end of your post you need to tag 8 people and include their names.
  4. Don’t forget to leave them a comment and tell them they’ve been tagged, and to read your blog post.

8 Random Things About Me:

1. I read a lot. At this moment, I have five books stacked on my nightstand still waiting to be read, not including the extra book in my recent book giveaway that I’ve already read from cover to cover.

2. I hate to cook. I do not enjoy cooking, but my Strawberry Shortcake recipe seriously kicks butt, and is a true winner in my family. I find no pleasure in preparing main meals, but when I make desserts, cakes and cookies, the smiles on my kids faces tell me all I need to know. I also collect casserole recipes as well as cookie recipes that are simple and easy to make, and the family does enjoy those.

3. My husband and I used to have our very own Bar-B-Q Restaurant, and my hubby’s beef brisket, pulled pork and ribs were the talk of the town. The hours we both put into the restaurant creating bbq recipes for customers to enjoy, working our pork butts off from early morning till late at night, eventually made us decide we needed to have our lives back and we closed the restaurant.

4. My friends and family think I’m pretty funny (my daughter says I’m “hysterical”). My sense of humor is somewhat sarcastic, and I love Bill Cosby, Jeff Foxworthy and Larry The Cable Guy. Fortunately, my crazy sense of humor hasn’t gotten me into much trouble. Yet.

Whack A Mole5. To this day I still retain my title as Reigning Queen of Whack-a-mole! No one has been able to beat me whacking those little mole heads that pop up randomly at the arcade we used to hang out at on weekends. Family and friends were very sure of themselves in their numerous attempts to take my crown from me, but they’ve always failed. hehehe

6. I’m also pretty awesome at Air Hockey, and my oldest son took great delight in finally………being able to beat me playing Air Hockey. Problem was…, it took him until his 21st Birthday to accomplish the task. Momma Rocks at Air Hockey! Laughing

7. I love to dance, and nothing gets me on the dance floor faster than hearing the beginning notes to “She’s a Brick… House”. It doesn’t matter where I am, even when I’m at work, the moment that songs comes on the radio I start moving.

8. I sing, and I’m pretty darn good at it. I have recording equipment that allows my hubby to record me singing, and he listens to the CD’s of my songs in his car. I won the Grand Prize at a singing contest a couple of years ago, and the lady that used to win each year was none too happy about the standing ovation I received. I sound like Wynonna Judd and Bonnie Raitt, from what I’ve been told numerous times.

I’m going to tag: Joeprah; Lynnae; Matt; David Finch; Lightening; Rob; Todd; Megan. Sorry all, rules are rules.

Smilie Saturday: Linky Love Weekend Roundup

Smilie Saturday: You Make Me SmileIt’s been an extremely busy week around here and I haven’t had much time to prepare new articles, so I wanted to point you towards some articles I’ve read that I believe you’ll find very interesting. I’ve been dealing with an odd little bump that suddenly appeared on my hand two weeks ago, and have been told by the doctor that it’s due to “overuse”, but he wouldn’t give me a doctor’s note that said I had to quit my job on “doctor’s orders”. Darn. Wink

One little side note. I’ve contacted a well-known expert in the area of child sexual abuse, and have suggested to him that he consider doing a Blog Tour to bring greater awareness to the prevalence of sexual abuse on children, the misunderstood subject of “mother blame” and things parents need to know to help protect their children. I’m happy to report that he is very interested, so stay tuned for more on that, as some people may have the idea that what I write regarding child sexual abuse is simply my personal opinion. Nope.

Weekend Roundup:

Be Wise With Your Economic Stimulus Tax Rebate What will you be doing with your tax rebate? We’re just putting ours in the savings account rather than spending it.

What Moms Really Think is a 5-part series that I really enjoyed reading. Be sure to check out each part of the series, as the ladies who participated are awesome!

14 Timeless Ways to Live a Happy Life gives some wonderful reminders for everyone about living a happy and fulfilled life, whether you are a parent or not.

12 Reasons to Turn Off the Television gives excellent advice on many ways our lives will be improved by switching off that little black box.

When Normal Child Sexual Development Becomes Abnormal is something everyone must read, and be sure to check out the links provided there.

Oh Well, Then, Allow Me to Retort is an explosive response to another blogger’s slam on stay-at-home dads. You can click on the links Joe provides in his article to read the “anonymous” dad post on Penelope Trunk’s blog, as I’m not going to give that shameful post any linky love.

Writing Better Blog Post Titles is a Must Read for all bloggers and writers, as this is an area so many bloggers get wrong. Your post titles are one of the most important things to consider in order to pull subscribed readers into your articles, or to increase search engine traffic. Do not miss Lorelle’s article on how to write better titles for your posts.

Thanks to all you for your exceptional blog posts, I really enjoyed all of them.