Looking at the divorce rate of America, it seems like almost every
body is interested in getting a divorce. The current divorce rate of America is about 50% which means every second couple is getting divorced or is already divorced. There are various reasons behind this high divorce rate. Flexible divorce laws is one of the prime reason behind this divorce rate. Two decades back people feared divorce. Those who took divorce were looked down upon in the society, and faced discrimination. But now all that has changed. People are not afraid to get a divorce. Divorce is just another legal battle for them.
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Easy Ways to Get a Divorce
If you are planning to get a divorce there are many ways through which you can get it done. The traditional methods of divorce can drag it into endless litigation, and will also burn a hole in your pocket with the huge attorney bills.
However, there are many easy ways through which you can get the divorce done, and that too quite economically. With the introduction of new types in divorce in the legal system taking a divorce is no more a tough process to go through. However, make sure to consult an attorney to understand the divorce laws of your state.
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Marriage in College
Fourteen percent of women between the ages of 25 and 29 who had been married were divorced. Although this seems like a significantly high rate, it represents a 30 percent drop from just ten years ago. More people are waiting until later in life to get married, contributing to the lower divorce rate.
Some still prefer to marry young, though, and even choose to make the leap at while in college. Doing so may be thought to be rash, or to require at least one parent to put off finishing school or take online classes for college, but in fact couples willing to face the challenge stand chances as good as anyone else of making a lasting marriage.
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Toxic Relationships – Narcissism and its Deadly Effects
Thank you, Lin, for asking me to guest post on the topic of narcissism and its deadly effects. This is a subject that has come into its own. Lin’s awesome post, Toxic Relationships – Toxic Family Members has garnered almost 200 comments and 700+ Facebook “likes” since it was written three years ago.
Many more resources are available to folks who find themselves in a relationship with these insidious people than when my co-author, Lori Hoeck, and I first wrote The Narcissist: A User’s Guide a scant eighteen months ago. Since then, our User’s Guide e-book has been downloaded over a thousand times, and continues at a steady rate.
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Letting Go of Our Grown Adult Children, When What We Do is Never Enough
“Letting go of adult children. It’s something parents do all the time. At least we’re told that’s what parents are supposed to do about the time their children turn eighteen”, says author Arlene Harder in her book on dealing with grown children who haven’t turned out the way parents hoped and expected. Whether our grown “adult children stayed living under our roof longer than we want, or strike out into the world earlier than anticipated, parents are told they need to cut the apron strings that have kept us focused on our child.”
In other words, says Harder, “when our children reach the age of maturity, we are expected to make a major change in our relationship with them- to transfer responsibility for decisions concerning their lives from us to them. If we successfully complete this transition, we will, says conventional wisdom, accept our children as independent individuals just as they are, including imperfections, values that conflict with ours, and different needs and desires. And they will accept us in return. We will communicate openly and share our values and experiences with one another without believing we have the right, or the power, to change the other person.”
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Abusive Marriage – How to Leave Abusive Marriages or Abusive Relationships
Deciding to leave an abusive marriage or relationship is never easy, and the decision to leave is very personal. Leaving abusive relationships can be downright dangerous, even life-threatening, especially during the first few months after leaving. The signs of abuse are all there, even if there are no visible bruises, wounds or scars from being physically abused. The mental and emotional turmoil experienced by victims of domestic violence may be unseen to those unaware of the pain abused husbands or wives have gone through.
But, the men and women who have been battered physically, mentally or emotionally abused and have had their self-esteem beaten down, feel the fear of leaving their abuser for many different reasons. Leaving an abusive husband or wife requires a plan of action, in order to safely and successfully leave the abusive partner or spouse. Statistics show that the chances the abuser will change, even with professional counseling, are slim to none. Men or women with an abusive personality do not change. A truly abusive person does not change, will not change, and victims must get out.
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