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Reality Steve Bachelor Spoilers vs ABC The Bachelor Mike Fleiss

Our favorite snarky and sarcastic reality tv blog-master Reality Steve has Bachelor producers in a dither because of Steve’s bachelor spoilers. Reality Steve, aka Steve Carbone, just might need to watch out for the Israeli secret service to come knocking on his door, according to an interview executive producer Mike Fleiss had with EW. Really ABC? I just bet that Reality Steve is shaking in his Texas boots right about now. Not likely.

While Bachelor producers are going about their business of preparing for the upcoming wedding of Jason Mesnick and Molly Malaney, to be aired on March 8, producers of The Bachelor aren’t too happy with Steve Carbone and the oh-so-fabulous spoilers on Reality Steve’s blog.

Reality Steve’s blog updates comes complete with some of the best, if not THE best, Bachelor episode recaps and spoilers on the web. Sarcasm, wit and snarkiness flows freely on Steve’s blog and his fans love it! ABC knows it too and Hollywood Insider interviewed Bachelor producer Mike Fleiss about the impact Reality Steve and his blog is having on the hit reality show.

Part of ABC’s problem with Reality Steve is that he accurately revealed the shocking details of how Jason Mesnick would propose to Melissa Rycroft and then dump her for Molly on national television before the After the Final Rose special aired. The fact that Steve has revealed on his blog a number of great spoilers, who the Final 4 would be and who would “win” Jake Pavelka’s heart at the final rose ceremony, should give viewers and fans reason to believe Reality Steve is right. Again.
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Posted by Lin in Dating, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Reviews, Women on February 4, 2010

Tags: Tags: ABC The Bachelor, bachelor contestants, chris harrison, final 4, hollywood insider, israeli secret service, jake pavelka, melissa rycroft, mike fleiss, pavelka, reality steve, steve carbone, The Bachelor, vienna girardi

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Do Women Want Sex? Reasons Why Women Don’t Want to Have Sex

Ever since I published the 30 Day Sex Challenge, I’ve heard from quite a few women who say they don’t want to have sex with their husbands, while offering a large number of reasons why they don’t want to have sex. I’ve also heard from a number of men who want more sex with their wife but can’t seem to figure out why the sex isn’t happening as frequently as these guys would like. “Is having sex once every 3-9 months normal?”, one husband asked.

“I don’t want to have sex” and “she doesn’t want to have sex” were the common subject titles from women and men who are reporting sexual dysfunction and low libido in their marriages. Most, if not all, were asking “is it normal” to not want to have sex very often (or at all), and what possible reasons there might be for their wives to not be interested in having sex. They also wanted to know how often married couples are “supposed to have sex” to keep the fire alive in their marriage, and some wives reported their husbands “weren’t doing it right”. Ouch.

It came as somewhat of a surprise to me that some women said their husbands don’t know how to please a woman in bed and can’t bring her to orgasm, but these same women admit to never (ever) telling or showing their husbands what they want or need in bed to be completely satisfied sexually. Really? Come on, ladies, it works both ways. Men aren’t mind readers and most men DO want to please their wives in bed, but if you have never talked with your husband about your personal desires or sexual needs, communication in your marriage is a problem to work on. Today.
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Posted by Lin in Divorce, Elderly, Family, Health, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Women on February 1, 2010

Tags: Tags: 30 day sex challenge, female body image in the media, how to please a woman, how to please a woman in bed, how to spice up your marriage, keeping the fire alive in your marriage, libido enhancers, low libido, natural aphrodisiacs, regret getting married, sex 69, sexual dysfunction, sexual frequency, sexual needs, women and men

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Reality Steve Bachelor Spoilers, Season 14 Final Four and Winner Revealed

Fans of The Bachelor reality television show on ABC are likely familiar with Reality Steve and his blog. Reality Steve, AKA Steve Carbone of Dallas, has revealed the final 4 Bachelor contestants and who Jake Pavelka picks as winner at the final rose ceremony, due to having a very reliable inside source.

There are many Bachelorette and Bachelor blogs, forums and message boards for fans to read recaps, spoilers and speculations about what happens before the show even airs on ABC, but if you really want to know the reality of what has been going on behind the scenes on The Bachelor, you have to read Reality Steve’s blog at realitysteve.com.

I’ve been a fan of a few “reality television” shows over the years, but the recent so-called sex scandal involving Bachelor contestant Rozlyn Papa and former producer Ryan Callahan has created a negative but well-deserved buzz about the show’s integrity and host, Chris Harrison. Rozlyn has said in interviews on National Television that there was no “inappropriate relationship” between her and Callahan whatsoever, no kissing, no sex, nothing “physical” as Chris Harrison has claimed.
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Posted by Lin in Dating, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Reviews, Women on January 18, 2010

Tags: Tags: ABC The Bachelor, bachelor contestants, chris harrison, improper relationship, inappropriate relationship, jake pavelka, pavelka, rozlyn papa, sex scandal, steve carbone, The Bachelor, The Bachelorette, vienna girardi

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Chicago Family Vacation For Cheap – Things to Do in Chicago

Taking a vacation in Chicago is one of the best places for travel, with so many things to do during the summer and winter months, there is no chance of ever running out of fun things to do in Chicago for cheap. Chicago is by far one of my favorite vacation hot spots since my kids and grandkids live there, and since I used to live in the northwest suburbs of Chicago years ago, visiting my old stomping grounds will be a treat.

We’ve had a good time during our inexpensive Staycation vacations, but this year we decided we really needed a getaway vacation where we can fly to Chicago and enjoy the Windy City and its many attractions. Planning a cheap vacation trip to Chicago includes finding good deals on hotels, car rentals, air fare, discount event tickets and finding as many free activities as possible. When it comes to planning a vacation to Chicago or anywhere else, cheap is good, but free is better.

Deciding where to stay in Chicago, where to eat, where to park if you’re going to spend time in downtown Chicago or surrounding cities, and where all the hot spots are in or outside of the city are things that must be decided. Picking what hotels or motels we would consider for our visit to Chicago was easy with Hotels.com, and since I used to live there I know what neighborhoods are good or bad, and what areas to avoid at all cost.
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Posted by Lin in Children, Family, Holidays, Marriage, Men, Reviews, Shopping, Teenagers, Women on January 18, 2010

Tags: Tags: cheap family vacation, cheap round trip airfare, cheap vacation, fun things to do in chicago, getaway vacation, northwest suburbs of chicago, suburbs of chicago, things to do during the summer, things to do in chicago, trip to chicago, vacation hot spots, vacation trip, where to stay in chicago

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Husband Abuse: Abused Husbands and Men in Abusive Relationships

Are you an abused husband? Teenage boys, is your girlfriend abusing you? Does your wife, partner or girlfriend physically, mentally, emotionally or financially abuse you? What should abused men do if they are married to an abusive wife who is verbally, mentally, emotionally or perhaps even physically abusing her husband? Parents, have you taught your sons and daughters to identify the warning signs of abusive relationships, so they know the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships, in order to avoid becoming an abuse victim?

If you have sons or daughters who are dating or married, how would you react if you discovered they were being abused by the person who claims to love them? If you are a man who is dealing with an abusive spouse or partner, in or outside of the marriage covenant, the psychological damage of being an abused man by the woman you love must be heartbreaking for you.

Relationship Abuse by Abusive Women

Over the last several months, I have received numerous emails from men who say that their wife or girlfriend is not only verbally and emotionally abusive to them but also, in many cases, physically abusive. I am quite familiar with the reported statistics regarding abused men, just as I know the statistics about abused women. Unfortunately, those statistics do not tell the whole story because so many abused men and women do not report the abuse to the police, in order for there to be an accurate and updated database to go by.
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Posted by Lin in Abuse, Dating, Divorce, Family, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Teenagers, Women on January 11, 2010

Tags: Tags: abused men, abusive men, abusive relationships, abusive women, domestic violence, How to Fight Fair in Marriage, relationship abuse, signs of abusive relationships, Toxic Relationships

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Abused Men: Battered and Emotionally Abused Male Victims of Domestic Violence

Abused men are men and teenage boys who are in physically, mentally and emotionally abusive relationships involving partners, girlfriends or wives. Men who are abused do not get the respect, understanding, encouragement or support from society as a whole and are often criticized and ridiculed unfairly, further victimizing men who are abused.

Victims of domestic violence are not just women, wives or girlfriends. Domestic violence occurs with men too, and it’s about time abused men and society in general wake up to the alarming statistics about women, girlfriends and wives who abuse men and stop turning a deaf ear to the abuse men are experiencing.

Boyfriend and husband abuse is a reality in society and men who are abused by women need help, encouragement and support just as much as abused women do. Domestic violence against men, and abusive relationships of all types, do not discriminate and abuse occurs in all ethnic, racial and socio-economic groups.

When you hear the words “domestic violence” and physical, mental and/or emotional abuse, do you tend to think about women or girls who has been slapped, hit, punched, kicked, bullied, ridiculed, degraded, criticized and humiliated by a man? Domestic violence against women by men who claim to love them has been a serious problem for a very long time, but what about the men? What about men who are abused by women? Why do abused men stay in abusive relationships if it’s so bad, you may wonder.
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Posted by Lin in Abuse, Dating, Divorce, Family, Health, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Teenagers, Women on January 7, 2010

Tags: Tags: abused men, abused women, abusive men, abusive relationships, domestic abuse victims, domestic violence, domestic violence against men, domestic violence against women, emotional abuse, emotionally abused men, husband abuse, marriage regret, victims of domestic violence, violence against men

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Chris Harrison Confirms The Bachelor Shocking Sex Scandal

Not sure if this qualifies as a “Bachelor spoiler” or not, but Bachelor host Chris Harrison has confirmed the ongoing rumor of a sex scandal involving one of the Bachelor contestants and a producer of the show, and Jake Pavelka had nothing to do with it. Ruh Roh! Drumroll please….

As much as some of you Bachelor fans would love to see scandal and sexy mayhem on Season 14 of The Bachelor, such as a sordid lesbian girl/girl kind of scandal, Harrison has confirmed the scandal involved a male producer and one of the contestants.

In the promo leading up to tonight’s premiere of The Bachelor “On The Wings of Love” with sexy hunk Jake Pavelka the pilot, we’re teased with “She’s been having this sexual affair with somebody else in the Bachelor house.”

In a radio interview with Sean Valentine, Chris Harrison called the affair “a barn storm. It was a fire.” Any reality television loving bachelor fan knows it’s a big no-no for contestants and show producers or big-wigs to be um…playing house onscreen or offscreen.
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Posted by Lin in Dating, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Women on January 4, 2010

Tags: Tags: ABC The Bachelor, bachelor contestants, chris harrison, jake pavelka, sex scandal, The Bachelor

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Join a Gym or Workout At Home – Exercise for Beginners

Should you join a gym or workout at home if you want to lose weight? Do you really need to join a gym or not? Can women lose weight without a gym membership or should you buy gym equipment and exercise at home? Which is better, yoga or aerobics for weight loss? Who says you can’t exercise without equipment?

These are just some of the questions that are often debated and discussed amongst friends and family, so it seems fitting that we begin the new year with discussions about losing weight, exercise routines, diet plans and getting fit. Personally, I hate the word “diet” in regards to wanting to lose weight and starting an exercise routine to help us get in shape and living a healthy lifestyle. For us, it’s not about being thin according to society’s standards; it’s about being as healthy as we can be in mind, body and spirit.

Several years ago, I believed that without a gym membership there was no way I could lose weight and get physically fit. I was wrong. You can lose weight by eating healthy and exercising at home, and you don’t have to buy gym equipment if you don’t want to or can’t afford to. I wish I understood that years ago before I bought and paid for a Bally’s gym membership that ultimately cost me thousands of dollars that would have been better spent elsewhere.
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Posted by Lin in Family, Health, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Women on January 4, 2010

Tags: Tags: diet plans, exercise at home, exercise for beginners, exercising at home, getting fit, gym equipment, joining a gym, living a healthy lifestyle, losing weight, working out at home

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People Pleasers and Doormats Care What People Think About Them

Are you a people pleaser? Do you care what people think about you? Should you care what other people think about you or not? Do you have the “disease to please” people in your life to the point where you feel like you have become someone’s personal doormat to wipe their dirty feet on? Do you have difficulty saying no to requests and then feel angry or resentful because you said yes, again? Who is pulling your strings?

By definition, people pleasers are people who have a disproportionate and unhealthy need in their personality to give in to the wants, whims and desires of others around them, to the point of sacrificing their own wants or needs. People pleasers, pushovers and doormats lack assertiveness skills and hold back from speaking up and saying what they really think or feel, and they hold back from asking for what they need or want because they’re worried someone will get upset about it.

Having a people pleasing personality is great…..until. Being considerate, thoughtful, gracious and willing to help others are admirable traits and characteristics, but suffering from doormat syndrome or being a people pleaser to your own detriment are not so admirable. People pleasers put other people’s needs before their own, rarely doing things for themselves and then feel guilty about it.
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Posted by Lin in Abuse, Children, Dating, Divorce, Family, Health, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Women on January 3, 2010

Tags: Tags: abusive relationships, disease to please, domestic violence, doormat syndrome, entitlement issues, helping and enabling, parenting adult children, people pleasers, people pleasing, Toxic Relationships, who is pulling your strings

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The Bachelor Contestants – Bachelor Season 14 Jake Pavelka On The Wings of Love

The season premiere of The Bachelor “On the Wings of Love” starts on Monday, January 4 (8 p.m. EST on ABC), with Jake Pavelka the pilot as the new bachelor. Fans of sappy romantic television shows like The Bachelor and The Bachelorette are excited to find out if Jake finds true love and who Jake will choose to be Mrs. Pavelka at the final rose ceremony of The Bachelor season 14, of if online dating sites will be his next stop.

News reports quoting 31-year-old Jake Pavelka, the hunky commercial airline pilot from Dallas, say that Season 14 of The Bachelor promises to be “a very rocky and dramatic season”. If recent spoilers of the very popular dating series are true, claiming a “shocking scandal” involving a contestant having a sexual affair with an ABC production crew member of The Bachelor show, host Chris Harrison and ABC big-wigs have yet to confirm or deny the scandalous rumors.

Creating drama and media hype about the premiere of The Bachelor to help stir up excitement and ratings with a sex scandal, ABC began running a brief, on-air promo spot about the cheating female contestant. On the promo, a female contestant is heard on the audio clip saying, “She’s been having an sexual affair with somebody else in the Bachelor House”. To say “it wouldn’t be The Bachelor if it didn’t start with one shocking scandal” is an understatement, and it certainly helps keep up the show’s ratings.
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Posted by Lin in Dating, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Women on January 1, 2010

Tags: Tags: ABC The Bachelor, online dating sites, The Bachelor, The Bachelorette

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