Comments for Telling It Like It Is http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net things you need to know about raising children, relationships, marriage and parenting Tue, 15 May 2012 14:11:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on How to Get Along With the In-Laws: Dealing With In-Laws and Extended Family by Jane http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/2008/06/how-to-get-along-with-the-in-laws-dealing-with-in-laws-and-extended-family.html#comment-19916 Jane Tue, 15 May 2012 14:11:12 +0000 http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/2008/06/how-to-get-along-with-the-in-laws-dealing-with-in-laws-and-extended-family.html#comment-19916 I must say -this was very helpful. My in-laws are not nightmarish but they can be difficult. I feel often that they are waiting for me to change into someone who would fit in better with the family and disapproval is written all over their faces whenever they come to visit. I am expected to dote on my husband, be "more respectful", to be more helpful at family functions, attend more family functions etc. I feel I am constantly being compared to his exes and how they could have done better at these things. His youngest sister speaks to me as she pleases often in his presence with no intervention from him. My mother in law is very traditional and conservative woman. At a family function last December after breaking our backs to make it to the function, I was literally attacked by her because of how I was dressed!!! I was from a wedding and dressed in a knee-length sleeveless cocktail dress. Since we were so late already coming back from a wedding out of town, we went straight to my husband's home. as soon as we arrived she dashed straight to me (I was chatting with a relative) and said "oh look at how you're dressed. we cant have you walking around like that-come inside and get something decent to wear" I was livid and felt humiliated! When I told my husband-he yelled at me saying "stop villifying my mother. She is just trying to make sure you fit in with everyone!" the nerve!!!! I have not forgiven him for that. I felt he failed to protect me from his family and would allow them to just walk all over me and do as they please! I stopped visiting them completely unless they specifically ask us to come over. I need to protect myself since clearly my husband is incapable of it. I know that if this happens again-he and I will have serious issues-I cannot be married to a man who fails to keep his own family from abusing me I must say -this was very helpful. My in-laws are not nightmarish but they can be difficult. I feel often that they are waiting for me to change into someone who would fit in better with the family and disapproval is written all over their faces whenever they come to visit. I am expected to dote on my husband, be “more respectful”, to be more helpful at family functions, attend more family functions etc. I feel I am constantly being compared to his exes and how they could have done better at these things.
His youngest sister speaks to me as she pleases often in his presence with no intervention from him.
My mother in law is very traditional and conservative woman. At a family function last December after breaking our backs to make it to the function, I was literally attacked by her because of how I was dressed!!! I was from a wedding and dressed in a knee-length sleeveless cocktail dress. Since we were so late already coming back from a wedding out of town, we went straight to my husband’s home. as soon as we arrived she dashed straight to me (I was chatting with a relative) and said “oh look at how you’re dressed. we cant have you walking around like that-come inside and get something decent to wear”
I was livid and felt humiliated! When I told my husband-he yelled at me saying “stop villifying my mother. She is just trying to make sure you fit in with everyone!” the nerve!!!! I have not forgiven him for that. I felt he failed to protect me from his family and would allow them to just walk all over me and do as they please! I stopped visiting them completely unless they specifically ask us to come over. I need to protect myself since clearly my husband is incapable of it.
I know that if this happens again-he and I will have serious issues-I cannot be married to a man who fails to keep his own family from abusing me

]]> Comment on FREE Dental Care Treatment Services Contest by 1-800-DENTIST Smile Makeover by Andrea Wilson http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/2009/09/free-dental-care-treatment-services-contest-by-1-800-dentist-smile-makeover.html#comment-19867 Andrea Wilson Fri, 11 May 2012 12:01:10 +0000 http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/?p=3170#comment-19867 I'm a 44year old mother of four and a grandmother of ten I won't even take pictures with my kids and grandkids because of my teeth I won't smile my teeth are so bad I loss a tooth in the front and I'm ashamed of my teeth I would love to be able to take pictures with my kids and grandkids but I won't because I won't smile because of my teeth so I would love to have a dental Makeover I'm disabled so I don't have insurance I'm still fighting with social security have been for four years now I’m a 44year old mother of four and a grandmother of ten I won’t even take pictures with my kids and grandkids because of my teeth I won’t smile my teeth are so bad I loss a tooth in the front and I’m ashamed of my teeth I would love to be able to take pictures with my kids and grandkids but I won’t because I won’t smile because of my teeth so I would love to have a dental Makeover I’m disabled so I don’t have insurance I’m still fighting with social security have been for four years now

]]> Comment on Should You Tell You Were Sexually Abused? What Happens When You Tell? by This Girl http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/2009/03/should-you-tell-you-were-sexually-abused-what-happens-when-you-tell.html#comment-19816 This Girl Wed, 09 May 2012 07:13:41 +0000 http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/?p=1570#comment-19816 Hello I just want to ask how I should tell my parents about being molested as a child. I was molested by an uncle I was (maybe) around 7 years old I really dont remember I am now 24 I have a son and my husband wants me to tell my parents about it since I never told them about it. I feel like there is no need for me to tell since it happened long ago and I dont want to mess up my family and break my mothers heart since its her brother. I did have a hard time as a teen when I would think about the incidents and felt that no one would love me like that, and I was very sexual I though of very sexual things that I shouldnt of been thinking about at that age. I was always very shy, quiet and serious to this day I feel very mature but childish in some ways, I felt very different from my friends growing up and I think it has somewhat affected my self esteem (but I also blame other things for that) but Im thankful that growing up I had a friend who I think helped me through this without even knowing she was helping me. I could of ended up doing drugs or sleeping around but thanks to her and the morals that were instilled in me got me to good place although emotionally I think it affected me. I always though about things a lot the what if's and the why's. I dont hate my uncle, Im not scared of him but sometimes do feel uncomfortable around him, I dont see him often. I feel like I have forgiven him for what he did and maybe even feel pity for him he has had a hard life dealing with alcohol and drug abuse. His wife and children, my grandma and grandpa have suffered a lot because of his illness sometimes I feel sad for him eventhough he has brought it on to himself. This is how I think and let me know if its bad to feel like this but I think he is not a bad person I think he has done wrong very bad choices Im not justifing what he did to me, I dont blame myself because I didnt do anything to make him do this. My husband wants me to tell my parents before he comes over to visit from out of state he told me why its good to tell and let this secret out but I just cant even imagine myself telling my mother, I know it will break her and my whole family and his too. SOmetimes I feel like God will judge him and he will receive what he deserves and I think hes already paying for the things he did but I see no point in telling now, its been so long. Is it best if I see a proffesional about it? Once in a while I'll think of this If I see a story about it but I feel that im not affected by it every single day anymore, like I used to be. Hello I just want to ask how I should tell my parents about being molested as a child. I was molested by an uncle I was (maybe) around 7 years old I really dont remember I am now 24 I have a son and my husband wants me to tell my parents about it since I never told them about it. I feel like there is no need for me to tell since it happened long ago and I dont want to mess up my family and break my mothers heart since its her brother.
I did have a hard time as a teen when I would think about the incidents and felt that no one would love me like that, and I was very sexual I though of very sexual things that I shouldnt of been thinking about at that age. I was always very shy, quiet and serious to this day I feel very mature but childish in some ways, I felt very different from my friends growing up and I think it has somewhat affected my self esteem (but I also blame other things for that) but Im thankful that growing up I had a friend who I think helped me through this without even knowing she was helping me. I could of ended up doing drugs or sleeping around but thanks to her and the morals that were instilled in me got me to good place although emotionally I think it affected me. I always though about things a lot the what if’s and the why’s.
I dont hate my uncle, Im not scared of him but sometimes do feel uncomfortable around him, I dont see him often. I feel like I have forgiven him for what he did and maybe even feel pity for him he has had a hard life dealing with alcohol and drug abuse. His wife and children, my grandma and grandpa have suffered a lot because of his illness sometimes I feel sad for him eventhough he has brought it on to himself. This is how I think and let me know if its bad to feel like this but I think he is not a bad person I think he has done wrong very bad choices Im not justifing what he did to me, I dont blame myself because I didnt do anything to make him do this.
My husband wants me to tell my parents before he comes over to visit from out of state he told me why its good to tell and let this secret out but I just cant even imagine myself telling my mother, I know it will break her and my whole family and his too. SOmetimes I feel like God will judge him and he will receive what he deserves and I think hes already paying for the things he did but I see no point in telling now, its been so long.
Is it best if I see a proffesional about it?
Once in a while I’ll think of this If I see a story about it but I feel that im not affected by it every single day anymore, like I used to be.

]]> Comment on What People Don’t Tell You about Marriage by Amy http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/2012/04/what-people-dont-tell-you-about-marriage.html#comment-19808 Amy Tue, 08 May 2012 11:19:37 +0000 http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/?p=7273#comment-19808 Marriage is so easy to go into but very hard to maintain with open mind and lots of virtue. It's like a very rare plant that needs extra nourishment and tender loving care to make it blossom and bring forth its flowers. If a couple succeeds in growing the plant then perhaps it will only die its natural death following maturity and after bearing lots of fruit many decades after. Marriage is so easy to go into but very hard to maintain with open mind and lots of virtue. It’s like a very rare plant that needs extra nourishment and tender loving care to make it blossom and bring forth its flowers. If a couple succeeds in growing the plant then perhaps it will only die its natural death following maturity and after bearing lots of fruit many decades after.

]]> Comment on The Many Health Benefits of Coconut Oil by Tammy Guise http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/2012/05/the-many-health-benefits-of-coconut-oil.html#comment-19805 Tammy Guise Mon, 07 May 2012 11:17:00 +0000 http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/?p=7328#comment-19805 While on my research on nutritional benefits of coconut, I discovered that it is a widely used fruit in Southern part of India. People in that part of the world use it in making each and every dish and that is the reason why people there have great skin and hair. I have started using coconut oil for body massage once a week. While on my research on nutritional benefits of coconut, I discovered that it is a widely used fruit in Southern part of India. People in that part of the world use it in making each and every dish and that is the reason why people there have great skin and hair. I have started using coconut oil for body massage once a week.

]]> Comment on How to Tell Your Parents You Are Getting Married by Ali Shah http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/2008/09/how-to-tell-your-parents-you-are-getting-married.html#comment-19798 Ali Shah Sun, 06 May 2012 13:32:31 +0000 http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/2008/09/how-to-tell-your-parents-you-are-getting-married.html#comment-19798 Dear Happily Married, I must say you have said what i would have said, except better. Im 22, and trying to marrt a girl who I havent even dated. Were both virgins and best friends for the past 6 years. I take pride in my virginity and respect that my to be wife has kept something so special for her husband in return. Id basically like to add to your post that sometimes a person may just be under your nose and you may not suspect it. I have had no dating experience what so ever but I like to believe that it isnt neccessary. You dont have to meet people who you might regret meeting later. Its simple logic, if there is someone who is fulfilling your needs in terms of mental compromise, intellectual understanding and even proving loyalty/love towards you then why waste time going around and making hurtful mistakes? I wish you both the happiest of joys from the bottom of my heart, God bless :) Dear Happily Married,

I must say you have said what i would have said, except better. Im 22, and trying to marrt a girl who I havent even dated. Were both virgins and best friends for the past 6 years. I take pride in my virginity and respect that my to be wife has kept something so special for her husband in return. Id basically like to add to your post that sometimes a person may just be under your nose and you may not suspect it. I have had no dating experience what so ever but I like to believe that it isnt neccessary. You dont have to meet people who you might regret meeting later. Its simple logic, if there is someone who is fulfilling your needs in terms of mental compromise, intellectual understanding and even proving loyalty/love towards you then why waste time going around and making hurtful mistakes? I wish you both the happiest of joys from the bottom of my heart, God bless :)

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