Gold Diggers

24 Interludes of Life

One of my dearest friends sent me this poem entitled “24 Interludes of Life” the other day, and its meaning and message about life is so true, I couldn’t help but share it.

24 Interludes of Life:

Don’t go for looks, they can deceive. Don’t go for wealth even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile.
There are moments in life when you really miss someone that you want to pick them up from your dreams and hug them. Hope you dream of that someone.
Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go, be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want in life.

May you have…
Enough happiness to make you sweet
Enough trials to make you strong
Enough sorrow to keep you human
Enough hope to make you happy
And enough money to buy gifts.
When one door of happiness closes, another opens. But we often took so long at the closed door, that we don’t see the one which has been opened for us.
The best kind of friend is the one you could sit on a porch, swing with, never saying a word and then walk away feeling like that was the best conversation you’ve had.
It’s true that we don’t know what we’ve got until we lose it, but it’s also true that we don’t know what we’ve been missing until it arrives.
Always put yourself in other’s shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably does hurt the person too.

A careless word may kindle a strife;
A cruel word may wreck a life
A timely word may level stress
A lovely word may heal and bless.
The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves and not to twist them with our own image, otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.
The happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything, they just make the most of everything that comes along the way.
Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we should know how to be grateful for that gift.
It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone and a day to love someone – but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched and those who have tried. For only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.
Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion, the romance and find out you still care for that person.
A sad thing about life is that when you meet someone who means a lot to you only to find out in the end that it was never bound to be and you just have to let go.
Love starts with a smile, develops with a kiss and ends with a tear.
Love comes to those who still hope even though they’ve been disappointed, to those who still believe even though they’ve been betrayed, need to love those who still love, even though they’ve been hurt before.
It hurts to love someone, and not to be loved in return but what is most painful is to love someone and never finds the courage to let the person know how you feel.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past. You can’t go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
Never say goodbye when you still want to try;
Never give up when you still feel you can take it;
Never say you don’t love that person anymore when you can’t let go.
Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they’ll love you back. Don’t expect love in return, just wait for it to grow in their hearts but if it doesn’t, be content it grew in yours.
There are things you love to hear but you would never hear it from the person whom you would like to hear it from, but don’t be deaf to hear it from the person who says it with his heart.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life to the fullest so that when you die, you’re smiling and everyone around you is crying.

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Gold Diggers Get Their Due Reward

There was a time, in the “good ol days”, when girls grew up hoping to fall in love and marry a man who was handsome, kind, loving, attentive, romantic, respectful, loved children, and a good provider for the family. While these are still attributes women seek in a potential mate, there’s a disturbing and growing trend of women of all ages and ethnicities looking to hog-tie a man into marriage because of the size of his wallet. It’s certainly true that Gold Diggers have been around for a very long time, preying on unsuspecting men in a selfish and despicable attempt to siphon bank accounts dry, only to get a divorce and look for their next victim.

Although there is ongoing debate as to the cause of this kind of attitude amongst many women, the primary and most suggested cause is pure and simple vanity. Women justify their behavior by saying things like, “I take care of myself”, “I still look good”, “I keep my body in shape”, “Why shouldn’t a man have to pay handsomely for enjoying THIS body?”

There are many slang terms that might accurately describe this type of woman, and as descriptive as these terms might be, I’m embarrassed to be amongst this gender species that would ruthlessly seek to use and abuse men in this way. Even more embarrassing is that one of my best friends, a woman I’ve known since I was a teenager, has evolved over time into a Gold Digger. My friend, I’ll call her Jean, is 51 years old.

At a young age, she married a man she fell in love with, had two children together, and remained in this union for many years as an at-home mother caring for her husband and children, until she discovered he was having an affair. She was mortified that any man would choose to cheat on her despite the fact that, even to this day, she works out at a gym nearly everyday, and is more physically fit than most women her age, if not older.

Numerous conversations, naming a large variety of high-profile models discovering their husbands have cheated on them, haven’t made an impact on her opinion that good looks and a fit body is all it takes to “keep a man”.

After the divorce, Jean sought out men based on what kind of car they drove, their clothing style and brand names, had “six-pack abs”, whether they freely gave her money, what restaurants she was treated to, while she willingly gave up her “assets” in an attempt to prove her worthiness as a potential wife.

Having a full-time job of her own, she struggled month after month trying to provide for herself, now that the children were grown and gone. When describing the newest man in her life, the characteristics and qualities of the man’s personality were never mentioned, or if they had similar interests, likes and dislikes. “He drives a BMW”; “He has a nice house in the suburbs”; He is the CEO of “X” corporation”.

Jean later married a man she believed she loved, despite the fact that he was rather cold, uncaring, spiteful towards her adult children, controlling, physically abusive, an alcoholic, diagnosed with Bi-polar, and cheated on her. That marriage ended as well, and Jean is once again on the prowl, looking to find her meal ticket to the big house in the suburbs.

You might think that these type experiences would clue her in on the superficial aspects of what she seeks, but as of this writing, Jean is seeing a man who exhibits the exact same temperaments as her last husband. He has a good job, drives a very nice car, takes her to nice restaurants, takes her to church, hangs up on her when disagreeing on the phone, sends her hateful text messages and voice mails, treats her friends rudely and with utter disrespect.

While her gold digging attitudes and behaviors are selfish and disgusting, there is a real disconnect is her way of thinking, rationalizing her way out of the realization that two husbands have cheated on her and it had nothing to do with her body or feminine wiles.

What ever happened to the days of Helen Reddy’s song “I am woman, hear me roar”? I keep recalling the hit movie “Waiting To Exhale”, and the accompanying song “Sista’s Are Doing It For Themselves”. Women have come a long way since the feminist movement began, achieving great strides in the world of business, increased income, high positions in companies and government. It is beyond my comprehension how an increasing number of women, including a young 25 year-old twit on Craigslist, believe that men OWE them anything other than love, companionship, respect and commitment.

Perhaps women will only learn the futility of their dreams of the fast-track to fortune and luxury when they wake up one day old and alone. Perhaps if they focused their attention on things that really matter, like having a solid relationship that they personally contribute to outside of the bedroom, perhaps they may surprise themselves and find happiness with a man that treats them like a queen, even without the superficial fancy duds.

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