Are you stuck in a rut in your relationship with your husband or wife? Are you ready to get out of the rut you’re in and put some fire back into your marriage? Is your marriage lacking emotional intimacy, where you feel like your marriage to your spouse has become routine and boring? Are you in a sex starved marriage? Do you ever ask yourself “how do I get out of a rut in my relationship with my partner or spouse?”

If you’ve been feeling sad or depressed that your marriage seems to have become a boring, monotonous routine lifestyle that never changes, it probably means you are stuck in a rut. A relationship rut. It’s time you get out of the rut you’re in, spice things up a bit and reestablish intimacy, friendship, fun and sex in your marriage.

Angela says there is no intimacy in her marriage with her husband of 25 years anymore, virtually no sex at all and the emotional connection or excitement that brought them together is now gone. “Can this marriage be saved?” was her question in a recent email. Angela says she has considered telling their children that she wants a divorce from their father so she can “find someone new, exciting and fun” to be with. Problem is, she isn’t 100% percent sure she actually wants a divorce and wonders if it’s possible to bring back the spark that has been missing from their marriage before it’s too late.

Rodney says “my marriage is boring”, to the point where his marriage to his wife of 18 years has become a sexless marriage. No sex at all for more than three years. Zip, zero, nada. Rodney says he knows for sure his wife is not cheating on him, but the lack of intimacy and sex in their marriage is causing him to think he should just “give up” on the marriage and get a divorce. He says he realizes that “sex in marriage isn’t the most important thing about being married”, but the marriage is nothing more than a day-to-day routine where he feels like he and his wife have become mere “roommates” instead of friends and lovers.

How to Save a Marriage by Breaking Out of the Marriage Routine

Is your marriage boring and dull? A bit too “comfortable” perhaps? If you feel the romance has died in your marriage, or teetering on the edge of the abyss that too often leads to divorce, it’s time you step out of your comfort zone and work towards reestablishing the excitement and fun experienced during the beginning of your relationship. In marriage and life, routine or habit is common and normal. Until those routines and habits turn your marriage into a rut.

“The only difference between a rut and a grave are the dimensions” – Ellen Glasgow

There is no avoiding the fact that couples get married, have children, deal with work and family responsibilities that quickly become part of the routine of living day to day. Understand that there is a difference between routine and being in a rut. When marriage becomes routine, boring and dull, the husband and wife must work together and find ways to fire up their marriage and sex life to bring back the spark that’s been missing in their lives.

Face it, you can never go back to that first kiss moment… that incredible feeling of newly found love. Don’t look back at those times with sadness…look forward to the relationship you would like to have with your spouse and start building on that. Think about the things that initially attracted you to your wife or husband and make it a point to reconnect on that level.

Try new things to get out of the rut. Add some spice to your marriage relationship (and bedroom), and before long you’ll discover that the romance is back in your marriage, and you won’t have those nagging thoughts about separation or divorce anymore.

A boring marriage is not a deal breaker in my opinion. Boredom in marriage is not a legitimate reason to throw away a marriage. Rather than trying to decide if you should stay in a boring marriage or leave your marriage in hopes of finding someone new to fill the void, make the necessary adjustments as a couple to recreate the kind of loving, committed, happy marriage you both want.

If your marriage is stuck in a rut, get your marriage unstuck and on the road to recovery. Spicing up a marriage isn’t that hard. It does take effort, work and time, but the rewards are well worth it. Below are articles that provide ideas, advice, tips and clues into how you as a couple can get out of your relationship rut and get those home fires burning all over again. Are you willing to do what it takes to save your marriage?

• Do Women Want Sex? Reasons Why Women Don’t Want to Have Sex

• How to Please a Woman in Bed, Pleasure and Satisfy Her Completely

• A Marriage Without Regrets – Do You Regret Getting Married?

• Sex Every Day for Married Couples

• Keeping the Fire Alive in Your Marriage

• How to Spice Up Your Marriage

• Why Are Women So Strange and Men So Weird?

• Empty Nest Syndrome With Children Leaving Home

Can a boring marriage be saved? Yes, of course it can. If you are willing to do the work. “It takes two to tango” and each partner in the marriage is expected to participate fully. Happy marriages don’t just “happen” to us. Both husband and wife are equally responsible for putting forth the effort and WORK into the marriage, and that includes breaking through a relationship rut and improving the marriage for both the husband and the wife.

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Sex every day is most men’s fantasy, whereas most women dream of emotional intimacy in their marriage or relationship, as well as a satisfying sex life. The 30 Day Sex Challenge is a marriage enrichment program, developed by Tampa Florida’s Relevant Church Head Pastor Paul Wirth, for married couples to determine their personal and unique emotional needs in order to build upon and improve their marital relationship.

Cheating Spouse

Is he cheating? Is she cheating? Is your spouse cheating? Why do men cheat? Why do women cheat? Lack of intimacy in marriage or dating relationships. Men want and need intimacy too, despite the common and mistaken belief that all men have a fear of intimacy or that all men have commitment phobia.

The differences between men and women in communication styles often create marriage problems and marital conflict that can sometimes lead to an unhappy marriage, broken marriage, separation and divorce, sometimes due to a cheating husband (cheating boyfriend) or wives cheating (cheating girlfriends) as well as other relationship problems.

Relationship experts agree that the main reason why men cheat (or why women cheat) is because both of the individuals are not meeting each others deepest emotional needs and then wonder why they are not connecting on a sexual level and enjoying sexual fulfillment within the bounds of their own marriage or relationship.

Affair Proof Marriage

In order to have an affair-proof marriage, couples must take the time to learn how to communicate effectively and learn each others needs and desires, working together to ensure a strong, intimate, emotional connection to their spouse rather than looking outside the marriage to have emotional and sexual needs met.

Regardless of the excuses and so-called “reasons” why husbands cheat or why wives cheat, cheating is wrong and immoral, and there is no legitimate way to minimize the effects of marriage infidelity on marriages and children.

30 Day Sex Challenge

The 30 Day Sex Challenge is intended to help couples succeed in creating an affair proof marriage by breaking the sex challenge up into four mini-challenges: spiritual, emotional, sexual, and physical. Using a holistic approach, the Relevant Church developed an assortment of resources to help couples, such as an emotional needs questionnaire, a 30-day devotional guide for married couples, and a 30-day devotional guide for singles.

The sex challenge series is biblically and scripturally based, teaching singles that the Relevant Church (if not all churches) believe that God has reserved sex for married couples and if done God’s way, married sex can and should be the best sex of their lives.

***Also See: How to Please a Woman in Bed, Pleasure and Satisfy Her Completely***

To “have a stable relationship you need to be connecting spiritually, emotionally, and sexually and in that order”, says Paul Wirth. For the sex challenge, single men and women can’t have sex for 30 days, and married couples are urged to have sex every day.

The Sex Challenge:

• Each person, whether single or married, take the emotional needs test, then daily begin to meet the needs of the other person without thinking of themselves

• Each person fills out the daily journal after reading the questions and the scripture verses, and then write down his or her answers to the questions and thoughts about the verses

• Then the couples exchange journals with their partners and discuss them.

• Last the married couples are to be sexually intimate every day for 30 days (sex is more than just intercourse) and single couples are to abstain from sex for 30 days (any form of sex)

Couples participating in the sex challenge work through questions that deal with personal feelings, fears, uncertainties and joys that come up because of the sex challenge, helping couples build intimacy into the relationship and give the couple a fresh passion for each other. It makes for a win-win relationship.

Married couples can and need to take necessary steps to keep the fire alive in their marriage, not only with good communication but also with selfless giving in and out of the bedroom, which works well to affair proof your marriage.

Openly discussing emotional and sexual needs before getting married is vital for a healthy and happy marriage, and discussions of sex in marriage should never be a taboo subject after the wedding, otherwise how will your husband or wife know what you want or need emotionally or sexually in order to feel happy and fulfilled in your marriage?

Make the decision today to affair proof your marriage by taking the 30 Day Sex Challenge , discover each others emotional, sexual and spiritual needs, and take steps to fill those needs within your marriage. You just might discover that 30 Days of sex, sex every day with your husband or wife, makes for a very enjoyable habit to develop.

His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage
Questions Before Marriage – Questions to Ask Before Getting Married
Keeping the Fire Alive in Your Marriage
How to Spice Up Your Marriage
The Art of a Good Marriage
How to Fight Fair in Marriage
What Does it Mean to “Leave and Cleave?”

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