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		<title>Violence Unsilenced &#8211; True Life Personal Survivor Stories of Abuse, Domestic Violence, Rape</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 10 Aug 2009 22:32:29 +0000</pubDate>
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				<category><![CDATA[Abuse]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[abuse survivors]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[personal stories of sexual abuse]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you or someone you know is being abused or has been a victim of abuse, domestic violence, rape or molestation, it’s vital that you do something right now. Tell someone.
The culture of silence, fear and shame for survivors of abuse must end. Children who have been sexually abused don’t tell because they’re afraid, and [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<!--INFOLINKS_ON--><!-- google_ad_section_start --><p><img class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-2446" style="float:left;padding:0 15px 10px 0;" title="Personal Stories of Abuse" src="http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/wp-content/uploads/Personal-Stories-of-Abuse-150x150.gif" alt="Personal Stories of Abuse" width="150" height="150" />If you or someone you know is being abused or has been a victim of abuse, domestic violence, rape or molestation, it’s vital that you do something right now. <strong>Tell someone</strong>.</p>
<p>The culture of silence, fear and shame for survivors of abuse must end. <a title="Why Don't Kids Tell?" href="http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/2008/05/why-don%E2%80%99t-kids-tell-talking-to-your-children-about-sexual-abuse.html" target="_self">Children who have been sexually abused don’t tell</a> because they’re afraid, and that fear of telling is what the abuser is counting on to keep you silent <em>for the rest of your life</em>. If you don’t speak up and tell someone you are being abused now, or were physically or <a title="The Profile of a Pedophile" href="http://parentingmethods.suite101.com/article.cfm/the_profile_of_a_pedophile" target="_blank">sexually assaulted</a> at some point in the past, your abuser maintains control over you and your life.</p>
<p>You may have been threatened with further violence if you dare tell anyone that you were sexually assaulted, raped or beaten. You may feel you are all alone with the secret you have been keeping, or that no one would understand or believe you.</p>
<p><strong>You are not alone.</strong> Abuse survivors and advocates do understand, will believe you and can provide needed encouragement and support to help you find your voice and end the cycle of abuse. How do I know? Because I’ve been there myself. I was afraid to tell anyone I was sexually abused as a child, fearing no one would believe me or do anything about it, but I found my voice and <a href="http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/2007/09/look-into-the-eyes-of-a-child.html" target="_self">told my story anyway</a>.</p>
<p>Years later I got married and became a victim of <a title="Inside the Minds of Angry, Controlling, Abusive Men" href="http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/2008/02/inside-the-minds-of-angry-controlling-and-abusive-men.html" target="_self">domestic violence</a> by the man who vowed to love and cherish me “till death do us part”, but I found the <a href="http://divorce.suite101.com/article.cfm/getting_a_divorce" target="_blank">courage and strength to leave and got a divorce</a>. I took my power back, and because of that I don’t see myself as a victim. No, I am a survivor.</p>
<p>How do you develop the courage and strength to tell your personal story of rape, sexual assault or domestic violence, so you can take your power back and begin the healing process? By reading real life personal survivor stories of those who have been victimized themselves, and realizing that if they can do it, so can you. If I can do it, so can you. If other abuse survivors can do it, so can you.</p>
<p>You must tell someone.</p>
<p>Where do you find these personal stories to help you find the courage to tell? <a title="Violence Unsilenced" href="http://violenceunsilenced.com/" target="_blank">Violence Unsilenced</a> shares real life personal accounts of survivors who tell their experiences of domestic violence and <a title="Personal Story of Rape" href="http://violenceunsilenced.com/flutter/" target="_blank">sexual assault</a> to real people who listen, regardless of age, race, religion, ethnicity, sexual orientation or gender.</p>
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<p>Story tellers receive encouragement and support in the comments section from others who understand and have empathy for the abuse survivor. You can also submit your own personal story to Violence Unsilenced if or when you are ready. You don’t have to use your “real name” if you don’t want to, and you can tell your story anonymously if that is your preference.</p>
<p>Reading <a title="Sexual Abuse Books" href="http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/2008/10/sexual-abuse-books-adult-survivors-of-child-sexual-abuse-healing-sexual-abuse.html" target="_self">books on sexual abuse</a> also helps victims of all ages find the courage to tell someone they were sexually abused and begin the healing process. Those same books also help family members, parents and spouses better understand how sexual abuse affects <span style="text-decoration: line-through;">victims</span> survivors.</p>
<p>Just <a title="Should You Tell You Were Sexually Abused?" href="http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/2009/03/should-you-tell-you-were-sexually-abused-what-happens-when-you-tell.html" target="_self">tell someone</a>. Tell someone you can trust. Tell someone who will listen, but do tell your story. Tell <a title="Violence Unsilenced" href="http://violenceunsilenced.com/" target="_blank">Violence Unsilenced</a>.</p>
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