Gold diggers have been around for a very long time, with both men and women looking for an easy meal ticket without having to work hard to provide for their own needs, including gold digging wannabe’s looking for lessons on how to be a gold digger in order to live a high-society, high-maintenance lifestyle with someone else’s hard-earned money. Knowing how to spot a gold digger can protect you and your assets from gold digging piranha, who pretend to genuinely care about you and love you, but are only in the relationship to get whatever they feel entitled to receive from you.
If you’re looking for information on how to be a gold digger, you are in the wrong place. Hit the back button and skidaddle, because your “it’s all about me” gold digging attitude is the bane of every woman’s (or man’s) existence. Gold diggers do not believe their attitude and actions are wrong because ‘truth is relative’ to them; they want it therefore it is right, and it is right because they want it.
Recognizing a gold digger, especially when you’re dating, can save you years of heartache as well as money, property and a wide range of assets. Do you know how to spot a gold digger early into a relationship, perhaps even on the first date, or have you already been taken for a ride by a gold digger and are now married to him or her?
What is a gold digger? According to the Urban Dictionary, the definition of a gold digger is “any woman whose primary interest in a relationship is material benefits. A woman who cares more about a man’s bank account than she does about the man. The closest male equivalent is a gigolo or boytoy.” My own definition would be more along the lines of a selfish, egotistical, narcissistic, money-grubbing skank with an extreme sense of entitlement that boggles the minds of those with any sense or moral compass.
Both men and women victims of gold diggers make common mistakes in the early stages of dating such as: buying expensive gifts for him/her, wining and dining at expensive restaurants, giving money to their date to help pay bills etc, usually in an attempt to impress the other person into continuing the new relationship or wanting to take the relationship to the next level before getting to know the real person behind the facade.
10 Things Gold Diggers Want to Know:
- What do you do for a living?
- How much money do you make?
- Where do you live?
- Do you own your own home?
- What kind of car do you drive?
- Do you have a boat? If so, what kind?
- What kind of restaurants do you frequent?
- Where do you like to shop for clothes?
- What kind of watch or jewelry do you wear?
- Do you have any children? If so, how many?
Gold diggers are a walking, talking, calculator. Every question or conversation that remotely relates to money is being used to calculate the percentage of the money that he/she feels entitled to benefit from, because they “deserve” it. Questions about how many children you have may appear to be harmless conversation, but the gold digger wants to determine how much of your time and money will go to the kids and how much time and money will be spent on him or her.
How to Avoid a Gold Digger
If you are looking to meet your soul mate, someone to spend the rest of your life with, take your time in getting to know the person. Beware of anyone who asks for money to pay bills, or even drops hints that they are struggling financially or can’t pay their own car insurance, because they are hoping you’ll take the hint and offer to give them money. Grown men and women should be able to take care of their own financial needs with hard work and effort, and if they’re not doing so due to poor money management or zero job skills, then you’re better off looking elsewhere.
Don’t be quick to pick up the tab at restaurants. Any self-respecting man or woman would come fully prepared to pay for their own meal (rather than running to the bathroom when the bill arrives), and that old cliche about men always having to pay for meals is ludicrous, especially in the early stages of dating. If your date demands or expects to be taken to the fanciest and most expensive fine dining restaurants in town, regardless of whether you can afford it or not, red flags are flying and this gold digging behavior should be taken as a major sign of trouble to come.
Don’t take your date shopping, especially in the early months of the relationship. If and when you do decide to being shopping with him or her, pay close attention to verbal and non-verbal clues that may indicate the tendency to only want to shop in high-end, expensive stores or boutiques. Gold diggers expect to be pampered, catered to and coddled on your dime, rather than spending their own money on the things they need or want.
Find out the girl or guy’s real values, ethics and morals through meaningful conversation, remembering that “if something sounds too good to be true, it probably is”. Use your God-given intuition and intelligence to choose someone to spend your life with that shares your own moral values, rather than being fooled by the experienced and seasoned gold diggers in this world that are selfishly seeking to extract your money out of your wallet.
Understanding how to spot a gold digger from the get-go will not only save you from being taken financially when dating, but will also save you from marrying a gold digger and possibly losing everything you worked so hard to achieve in life.